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  • 3 Reasons Why You Should Not Be Afraid to Be Strict With Your Child

    When you find yourself complaining about unruly kids, remind yourself what discipline is about.
    by Rachel Perez .
3 Reasons Why You Should Not Be Afraid to Be Strict With Your Child
  • We all know how difficult it is to be consistent with parenting. The area of discipline is even fraught with a lot of hand-wringing, usually out of guilt on our part. We've lost count at how often we've given the kids a pass from an infraction that would have meant automatic suspension of iPad privileges if it happened on a day when we're not distracted (read: bone tired).

    As tempting it is to use the I'm-choosing-my-battles card, one mom is saying to hold steadfast, dear parents, with your disciplining. In her article entitled "Why Parents Today Aren't Strict Enough"Nicola Kraus, co-author of the bestselling book Nanny Diaries, shares why it's important for parents to not give up on disciplining their children. "Undisciplined toddlers become obnoxious children who grow into spoiled teenagers and entitled adults. And at some point on your life's journey you have met one of each of these. And I bet you wished that somebody had put that person in their place," she wrote. 

    When you feel like you need a why-am-I-doing-this-again boost, Kraus recommends three key points to remember about discipline.

    1 "Discipline is part of creating an integrated functional adult."
    As Kraus points out, "Children aren't damaged by discipline, they're damaged by cruelty." Don't look at rewards or punishment as detrimental to your child's whole being. You also have to be clear why you want them to be near you while swimming in at the beach, or why you need to them to hold on to you in a public place. If the kids know why you are doing this, then you wouldn't have a hard time making them follow your rules.

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    2 "Don't reward any behavior you don't want to see again."
    It’s simple. If you reward bad behavior, the kid will only repeat it to get what he wants. He thinks it worked the first time, so it might work again. If you think that your toddler is using diversion tactics as a means to not go to bed early, then nip it in the bud and say you're not entertaining his antics.

    3 "Creativity actually flourishes within boundaries."
    Once you've set boundaries, you need to let your kids be kids and have fun. "Once an artist knows what the structure is they can let their imagination soar. The same is true of children. They crave boundaries. They repeat unwanted behavior, like tantrums and violence, because they're escalating it, waiting for someone to care enough to tell them no," Kraus writes. Children will soon understand that the rules are there to keep them safe and secure—and that can only help them be the best persons they can be.

    You want your kids to grow up as respectful, polite, and hardworking citizens. Go back to the discipline basics: communicate to your child your non-negotaibles and be loving and firm in following through your rules. Don't be afraid to be strict. 

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