Kinumpirma kamakailan ni Valerie Concepcion na buntis siya sa magiging unang anak sa kanyang mister na si Francis Sunga.
Ikinasal ang dalawa noong December 2019.
Thirty-five years old na si Valerie, at may anak na 18 years old, si Heather Fiona, sa kanyang nakarelasyon noon na si Jeremy Carag.
Sixteen years old pa lang siya nang isilang niya si Heather Fiona.
Sa panayam sa aktres sa Fast Talk with Boy Abunda na umere noong May 19, 2023, sinabi niyang ginawa niya ang lahat para gampanan ang papel bilang ina at ama sa kanyang anak kahit teenager pa lang siya noon.
Aniya, “I’ve sacrificed so much for her. I had to make sure na hindi ko na-prioritize ang pagiging teenager ko.
“Tina-try ko so hard to be a mom and dad to her.”
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Inamin din niyang nasaktan siya nang magdesisyon ang anak na hanapin ang ama nito nang may sapat na itong pag-iisip.
“It pained me noong hinanap niya kasi feeling ko nun, hindi ako enough.
“Kumbaga, hindi ko naibigay yung lahat. Hinanap pa niya yung tatay niya.”
Gayunpaman, inunawa umano niya ang anak.
“Na-realize ko rin na it doesn’t make her love me less because she looked for her father.
“She just really wants to know where she came from, her roots, and her full story.
“Now I understand.”
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ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOWIbinahagi rin ni Valerie na nag-reach out siya sa ama ng kanyang anak, pero wala itong naging kasagutan.
“We tried. We tried...
“I tried telling him, ‘Our daughter is ready to meet you. She told me she’s ready to meet you.’
“But I didn’t get a response, sadly.”
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Sinabi ni Valerie kay Tito Boy na pinapayuhan niya ang anak na huwag magalit sa ama nito, at sa nangyari sa kanilang pamilya.
Aniya, wala siyang kontrol sa kung anuman ang iniisip ni Heather.
“Pero kasi, hindi mo masisisi na hindi mawawala sa bata na nasaktan siya sa mga nangyari at na-disappoint siya.”
Sinabi ni Valerie kay Tito Boy na pinapayuhan niya ang anak na huwag magalit sa ama nito, at sa nangyari sa kanilang pamilya.
Aniya, wala siyang kontrol sa kung anuman ang iniisip ni Heather.
“Pero kasi, hindi mo masisisi na hindi mawawala sa bata na nasaktan siya sa mga nangyari at na-disappoint siya.”
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Nang tanungin naman kung agree siya sa statement na: “Ang pag-aasawa, parang kontrata lang yan. Pero ang pagkakaroon ng anak, panghabangbuhay,” sinagot ito ni Valerie ng: “Hindi.”
Paliwanag niya, “Siguro biased ako. Kasi at the age of 23, gusto ko na magpakasal.
“I don’t know. I think I’m in love with the idea of being in love.
“Having a kid at a young age, of course, you want someone there for your child. Being a single mom, I want her to have that father figure.”
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Binanggit din ni Valerie ang may isang bagay na gusto niyang ihingi ng sorry kay Heather.
“She’s 18 now, hinahanap niya yung tatay niya. So, siguro ang isu-sorry ko is yung hindi ko nabigay sa kanya yung normal na family dapat.”
What to do if child wants to reconnect with estranged parent
Here are some tips when your child wants to reconnect with an estranged parent, according to Very Well Family.
1. Start with gradual reconnection, such as brief supervised visits or calls. There's no need to rush it. Be open and honest with your child about the situation, and be a neutral mediator and avoid speaking negatively about the estranged parent.
2. Keep expectations realistic and allow time to rebuild trust. Should you need guidance, seek the help of a therapist or counselor who specializes in family dynamics.
3. Validate your child's feelings and support their decision, as long as it's safe. Remember to respect boundaries and let their relationship develop naturally.
This story originally appeared on PEP.ph. *Minor edits have been made by the Smart Parenting editors.
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