Alex Gonzaga Shares Second Pregnancy Loss Journey, 'Wag Kayo Magagalit Kay Lord'For the first time, Alex opened up about losing her second baby, "Sabi ni Mikee sa akin, 'I-share mo kasi baka may matulungan ka.'"by Judy Santiago Aladin . Published Nov 5, 2023
In an interview with her sister, Toni Gonzaga, on her YouTube channel, Alex shared their journey of trying to get pregnant through in vitro fertilization (IVF) and losing their baby for the first time.
Alex had a miscarriage in October 2021, and since then, they have been trying to conceive.
The actress and vlogger said she is finally sharing her journey to inspire other couples who are going through the same struggle. She said, "Shinare ko kasi kami ni Mikee noon, 'pag merong nangyayari sa akin na pain, ang kinakapitan ko noon aside from the Bible is nanonood ako ng mga life stories ng mga tao na galing dun sa pain na 'yun at nakaalis sila, tapos after ilang videos makikita mo na masaya sila."
She added, "Kung i-share ang kuwento natin sa kanila, baka matulungan natin sila maintindihan at maging less hard on themselves na 'Kasalanan namin ito.'"
She said that she and her husband have been fond of watching videos of couples who were able to get pregnant after a miscarriage.
Alex Gonzaga on overcoming grief from 2nd pregnancy loss
What helped her overcome the grief of losing their second baby was their faith in God and in each other. She said, "Nung ine-explain sa amin yung blighted ovum, wala ka pala talagang control sa pregnancy."
"Beyond our control ang pregnancy kahit IVF, kahit surrogate," she added.
The sisters revealed that both of them have thyroid problems, which may have affected their fertility. However, Alex didn't lose hope, and this year, Alex tried to conceive through IVF. She said she was inspired by American first lady, Michelle Obama. Unfortunately, the pregnancy didn't progress.
Alex was apologetic to her husband, but Mikee assured her that they are okay. "Si Mikee talaga, napakabait. Sabi ko, 'Mikee, sorry di na naman natuloy.' Sabi niya, 'Wag ka mag-sorry, madami pa tayong embryo. Go lang.'ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Mikee, whom she married in November 202o, also affirmed her, "Alam mo sa totoo lang masayang-masaya na ako pag tayong dalawa lang. Bonus na lang sa akin pag merong baby."
"You just have to be happy sa blessing ng ibang tao. Kasi darating din yung sa'yo." —Alex Gonzaga
When asked why, he said, "Eh kasi masakit eh, masakit mag-expect eh."
Nevertheless, Alex remains hopeful since they have only been married for three years. Toni assured her that there's so much time ahead of her.
Alex Gonzaga's learnings and realization from pregnancy loss
Alex revealed she felt a pang of sadness when she learned that Toni was pregnant with her second child, Paulina Celestine or Polly. "Nung buntis ka kay Polly, meron akong konting kirot, nainis ako, nagalit ako."
She said she felt pressured to get pregnant by the people around her.
Alex realized, "You just have to be happy sa blessing ng ibang tao. Kasi darating din yung sa'yo. You just have to let go, surrender talaga."CONTINUE READING BELOWwatch now
She then revealed the reason why she decided to open up about her pregnancy loss.
"Sabi ni Mikee sa akin, kahapon lang, i-share mo kasi baka may matulungan ka. Sa journey mo na 'yan na laging naghihintay kung matutuloy yung pregnancy or not, tapos naging okay ka naman, 'wag mo i-gatekeep 'yung naramdaman mo o yung journey mo kasi yung kasama mo diyan sa infertility journey, kahit nasa ibang bansa sila, shinishare nila for other people like us who are trying."
Toni, who gave birth to her second child in August, assured her, "In the end, everything works for the good. Malalaman mo din 'yan pag hawak mo na yung baby mo, 'pag one day hawak mo na siya."
Finally, Alex left an encouraging message for those who are on the same journey as her, "Wag kayo magagalit kay Lord kasi may reason talaga. Always pray, 'Lord, please comfort me,' 'di ba you like to comfort the brokenhearted? Lord, be with me. Yakapin mo ako the whole time na di ako masaktan, madurog, maloka. Sasamahan ka talaga Niya kasi 'yun yung naramdaman ko eh."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
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