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24 Embarrassing and Hurtful Comments Pregnant Moms Have Received: 'Ang Pangit Mo Magbuntis'Moms really cannot escape unsolicited comments from the people around them.by Kate Borbon .
Women go through a lot during pregnancy. There are the many physical changes, the random (and sometimes weird) cravings, and the mood swings. Despite all these things being completely normal parts of being pregnant, there are still some people who seem to get a kick out of making preggy moms feel bad about themselves.
24 times pregnant women experienced mom shaming
On the Smart Parenting Facebook page, we asked moms to share the most cringe-worthy things people told them while they were pregnant. Some were pieces of unsolicited advice, some were very weird remarks and superstitions, but most were just downright rude. It's a heartbreaking reminder that we can all benefit from a little compassion and kindness. There are just some things you should never say to a pregnant woman — if it's not nice, better not say it out loud.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
1. A lot of moms were shamed for the way their bodies looked during pregnancy.
“Ang laki ng tiyan mo. 'Di naman kambal yan, 'di ba? Alam mo, nung buntis ako, ang payat ko. Sexy pa din ako. Hindi mo mahahalatang buntis ako.” — Jennifer Edralin-Maribao
“My sister told me I looked like Fiona nung naging Ogre na, from the movie Shrek. Kasi super manas [ako] nun.” — Wendy Manuel
“Ang itim na naman ng kili-kili mo, parang hindi ka naliligo.” — Ems Mazon
“Grabe, para kang puputok na kabataan mo! Ang pangit mong magbuntis!” — Marnelz Mercado
“When I was on my last few weeks of pregnancy may nagsabi sa akin ng, ‘Ang laki mo na ah, kasya ka pa ba sa salamin!?’” — Arriane Ruaya-Cudiamat
“Someone commented on how my tummy looks, [saying] ‘Nyay, bakit ganyan?!’ May stretch marks na kasi tapos [may] linea nigra.” — Nicole Arce Arcinas
“I have a bulky built so when I was pregnant [with] my bunso, I always got the comment, ‘Ay, buntis ka pala? Parang taba lang kasi.’ Then, nung kabuwanan ko na, ‘Kabuwanan mo na, eh ang liit pa ng tiyan mo. Parang maliit baby mo.’” — Rose TajanlangitADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“Ay, ano ba yan? Nung buntis ako, hindi ako ganyan kalaking magbuntis. Maganda katawan ko nung nagbuntis ako. Ikaw, pangit ka magbuntis. Sobrang laki.” — Hazeline Ramos Batan
“I was 22 weeks preggy when this scenario happened: Nakasalubong ko sa hallway yung isa kong officemate and he said in a loud tone with matching ngising nakakaloko, ‘Ay buntis ka nga talaga at lalaki ang anak mo, ang laki na ng ilong mo eh!’ Parang gusto ko na lang lamunin ng lupa. Dami pa naman namin kasabay nun na naglalakad sa hallway.” — Darah
“My mother-in-law told me so many times whenever she comes and visits na when she was pregnant 115 lbs lang siya on her full term. By the way, I’m 170lbs now.” — Anonymous
2. Some moms were given strange advice that they did not ask for.
“Drink lots of milk so your baby will come out white.” — Greta Taguines
“Kumain daw ako ng up to 10 egg whites para madali lang lumabas yung baby. Kumbaga eh dudulas lang upon delivery.” — Anna Gaddi-FrondaADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“Wag na lumabas [sa] gabi dahil baka pasukan ng lamig ang tiyan mo…” — Tamara Colonia
“You can’t eat [eggplant] kasi maaapektuhan yung bata (magkakaron ata ng birthmark).” — Chelsea Memo
3. Some moms received hurtful words from strangers.
“Sinabihan ako ng FX driver na wag daw ako gumamit ng pamaypay sa loob ng FX. Wala na raw sasakay dahil iisipin na mahina ang air con. Sabi ko eh buntis ako eh, siyempre init na init yung pakiramdam ko. Ending: bumaba na lang ako habang umiiyak.” — Mel Cordero
“Was about 8 months pregnant while shopping for baby stuff at [a mall] department store… when one saleslady approached me and my mom and said, ‘Ang ganda naman po ni Mommy.’ I said thank you and the saleslady said, ‘Hindi po kayo, ma’am, si mother mo po.’” — Doc Bakez
“Palabas kami ni hubby sa street ng in-laws ko when this neighbor said to my hubby, ‘Ang lapad na niyan (pertaining to me). Dapat ‘yan pinapalitan na.’” — Almira Almendras-RamosADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“The girl [at] the cashier [of a bakeshop and] told me that the line was for pregnant [women], seniors and PWDs. I took off my jacket and showed my tummy, [and] she told me, ‘Ay, kala ko po mataba lang kayo.’ I went out after paying and told my husband, ‘Hon, [akala] niya mataba lang ako at hindi ako buntis.’ My husband [laughed] out loud and comforted me by saying, ‘Hayaan mo na, at least hindi ka mukhang buntis na buntis.’” — Niña Lazaro Obial
“When I [was] already [in labor] the nurse told me, ‘Ma’am manganganak na po ba talaga kayo? Kasi parang di po kayo buntis.’ I [replied], ‘Nakita mo na nga [na in labor], eh di buntis ako.’” — Annabelle Solis
“While trying to look for leggings… Then may pinakita sakin si Ate Tindera na size and sabi ko sa kanya, ‘Ate parang malaki ata.’ [And sabi niya,] ‘Laki mo kaya!’” — Haydee D. UyADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
4. Some mommas were on the receiving end of unfounded assumptions.
“Sobrang itim ng kilikili mo, 4 months ka pa lang… ay, lalaki ‘yan…” — Vanessa Malonzo-Espadero
“’Ang aga-aga mo lumandi.’ May isang middle aged na manang na hindi ko naman kilala ang biglang nagsabi sa’kin nyan. Baby face kasi ako at medyo kulang din sa height, pero hindi po ako minor, nakatapos po ako ng pag-aaral, may maayos na trabaho, hindi ako teenage mom, nasa lahi lang talaga namin yan na mukhang bata.” — NJ Argamosa
“Someone told me a while ago that I’ll probably have a boy… Because if it’s a girl, I should look pretty and blooming, but I actually looked haggard… A bit rude to say this to a pregnant woman, don’t you think? But whatever…” — Cess Relosa
“I was on my 35th week of pregnancy and my husband and I went to this nail spa. I had my nails done, a pedicure with foot spa and massage. This rude masahista kept on asking if ilang buwan na ako, at ang lalaki daw ng legs ko at paa, manas na daw sobra. She even pointed at her co-masahista who was also pregnant but with very thin legs at wala daw ka-manas-manas.
I was not answering anymore [because] it was getting annoying and rude. Pumunta ako dito para mag-relax. Oo manas ako, so anong gagawin natin ‘di ba. Then she told me, ‘Ma’am kaya siguro kayo manas, hindi siguro kayo nag-e-exercise, lagi lang kayo nakahiga.’ Nag-snap ako and told her, ‘Ate, nagtatrabaho ako araw-araw.’ Gigil na voice ko when I answered. It was so rude that I wanted to end the massage and just leave.” — Tasha RodriguezADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
What other cringe-worthy things were you told when you were pregnant? Share them with us in the comments below!
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