'Te, May Pambayad Ako!' Parents Share Funny And Horrible Experiences After Being Snubbed In EstablishmentsA dad said, "Kakauwi ko lang galing Japan. Mainit sa Pinas kaya tambay attire lang ako. Nagtanong ako magkano pantalon sa isang jeans store. Sagot sa akin, "Mahal yan!"by Judy Santiago Aladin .
Mom of four and Mega Star Sharon Cuneta's recent shopping experience caused a stir on the internet last week when she shared in her vlog that she got snubbed in a luxury store abroad. Media outlets shared her story until she clarified that there was no harm done.
In an Instagram post, she said, the store was just observing health protocols.
We asked parents in the Smart Parenting Village, our online community of moms and dads, to share their similar experiences. For others, it was funny, but for some, it became traumatic.
Here are their stories, shared with permission. Smart Parenting made minor edits for brevity and omitted the brand names for their safety.
Parents share their experiences being snubbed in stores
Preggy wants a maxi
Mommy Hershey recalled an experience she had 11 years ago. She still gets emotional when she remembers it.
"My experience was in Dubai. I was 5 months pregnant and my husband took me there for a vacation. I saw a maxi dress, and I really loved it. I asked the sales lady who is a Filipino that I wanted to see the dress and try it. She stood still, and told me, “Ate, mahal yan.” I told her, “I don’t mind." I really liked it, but she just ignored me. I went back to the hotel crying. I guess I was too sensitive at that time.
"The next day, my husband and I went back to the store. I didn't even want to go inside. I just pointed the dress to my husband, and he bought it for me. Ang lakas ng effect nung tindera sa akin! I remember maayos naman yung suot kong damit. She just automatically assumed na porket Filipino I can't afford the dress."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
"Kakagising ko lang, halos gulo-gulo pa buhok ko, naka-pangtulog ako, naka-car naman. Tapos bibili ako ng Magnum ice cream na malaki. Nakatingin lang sa akin yung cashier. Sabi sa akin, "Mahal yan."
Ah ok, ginawa ko kumuha pa ko tatlong tub. Sabi ko, "Te, may pambayad ako! Hahahaha." - Mommy Steph
Mommy Chloe shared a relatable experience while in a restaurant, pre-pandemic. She said her husband was craving for Peking duck, and decided to eat there. "We were out for errands - grocery shopping, normally we only wear pambahay clothes, and we were living nearby lang din. It was just me, my toddler, and hubby.
First, when I asked the receptionist for a table, she barely acknowledged me, but I saw her look at me from head to toe. Then I asked for a high chair for my toddler, and they gave us one but didn't put it where we were seated. Hubby had to carry it. Then we asked for the menu but it took a while for them to give it to us, we had to follow up.
"Then a lady in office attire sat next to us and was served by three servers/waiters at the same time. We were already in the restaurant for 15 minutes before she arrived. Her food was served, but we were still waiting for the menu. I spoke to the manager with the receptionist in full English. Ordered food worth 7k. They gave us a complimentary "sorry" gift but we never went back to that restaurant up to this day."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
In a bracelet store
Mommy Anne said she was wearing her baby when she got snubbed in a bracelet store. "I went there na simple lang, shorts and shirt. Wanted to see some charms closely. I’m nearsighted kasi and I can’t see clearly sa bright light. Hindi ako pinapansin. Eh naka arm party ako ng ilang bracelets na madaming charms, I acted like inaayos ko mga suot ko. Then yun, lumapit na si ate girl and kung ano-ano na inoffer sa akin."
Brand new car
"Nagpunta kami ng car store ng mama ko. Naka-duster kaming dalawa at naka-tsinelas, biglaan lang kasi dapat sa bank lang kami punta na malapit sa bahay namin. Pumasok lang kami, ang daming agent walang nag-aassist. Open house ata sila kasi may mga guests sila na nakapustura, ang daming agents kumpulan.
"As in walang lumalapit nasa reception area na kami wala din nag-ask anong kailangan namin, akala ata mag-sosolicit kami o mamalimos. Then nag-ask kami sa guard. Wala siyang choice kundi magtawag ng isang mag-a-assist. May lumapit pero alanganin pero tinuloy niya sagutin inquiries namin, then pinupush niya sa low downpayment. Sabi namin gusto nga namin malaki DP para mababa monthly. Ayun, umuwi kami, pinrocess agad kinabukasan after namin magpareserve. Yung mga naiwan na mga naka-luxury bag at panay gold sa katawan na guest nila sa open house, di pa sila tapos magsales talk." - Mommy LuzADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
In a popular jeans store, Daddy Gigie shared his experience. "Kakauwi ko lang galing Japan. Mainit sa Pinas kaya tambay attire lang ako. Nagtanong ako sa store. Sagot sa akin, "Mahal yan."
"Sa isang mall sa Dubai, I was waiting sa dad ng baby ko so we decided magtingin-tingin at baka my magustuhan. Nagandahan ako sa luxury brand na mga pang-kids, so nag-message ako sa dad ng baby ko na nandoon kami. My daughter is mukha talagang Indian, like brown skin, on fleek lashes and eyebrows, biglang naglilikot na yung daughter ko. Sabi sakin ng Pinay na sales assistant, “Kabayan, yung alaga mo baka makasira.” Ako ung nahiya imbes na gusto sana namin bumili ng clothes, lumabas kami. Tapos kinwento ko sa dad ng baby ko, tawang tawa." - Mommy Grey
"Asawa ko nung bumili ng motor, naka-shorts at naka-tsinelas, tingin-tingin siya hindi nilalapitan tapos nung sinabi niya, 'Ito na bilhin ko,' tas sabay sinabi yung installment amount, pero cash ang sabi ng asawa ko. Gulat sila eh, sabay biglang asikaso. Mommy Rushel
"Happened to me months before my initially planned wedding pre-pandemic. Though aminado ako, gusto ko lang tumingin-tingin kasi may naiisip na kong design sa dapat na magiging gown ko. Nung nakahanap na ako ng gusto ko sana sukatin, nag-reach out ako sa saleslady to ask about the sizes available. Nag-ask siya when daw ang kasal ko, then sabi ko na December pa. January palang nung time na yun. Then biglang hindi na sumagot si ate, hindi na ako binalikan.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Nung kinuwento ko sa asawa ko (fiance that time), gusto niya bumalik kami then bibilhin both gowns na gusto ko sana try, sabi ko nalang, huwag na panget naman kako. Hahaha." Mommy Jessica
"Nung time na bumili ako ng rice cooker sa appliance store. Hindi ako inaassist ng mga staff siguro kasi haggard at naka eco bag lang ako. Nag-aask ako kung alin ang magandang quality na rice cooker. Sabi ko bet ko yung mahal na brand. Sabi sa akin, “Ah, mahal yan” tapos maya-maya umalis, inassist yung old lady na maraming alahas."
"HAHAHAHAHA! Ending, ang binili kong rice cooker is worth 7k. Yun talaga bet ko e." Mommy Kyle
"Sa isang appliance store, nagka-canvas kami ng ref dahil plano talaga namin bumili. Nakapambahay lang kasi kami nun walang lumalapit magtanong man lang kung ano hanap namin. Narinig ko pa sabi ng isang staff, "Nagka-canvas lang yan," kaya sa iba nalang kami bumili." Mommy April
"Sa online shopping naman 'to. Tinanong ko kung "hm" yung bag kasi type ko. Sabi ng seller, "Ay, mahal ito!" Eh di nag-leave na ako sa live selling niya." Mommy Karen
Smart Parenting Mom Squad members also shared their experiences.
Mommy Victoria Dang said, her family got snubbed in a restaurant abroad. "Di kami pinapasok, discrimination dahil siguro they can’t speak English, huhu." She adds, "And they all see is what brand you wear and how you speak."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Mommy Dyan Gayas meanwhile said, "Ako when I wear my work clothes and no makeup, parang head to toe yung guard sa akin sa isang health and beauty store. Parang she followed me wherever I go. Kaya binili ko mostly beauty products I saw, haha."
Other moms meanwhile said they never experienced it before.
"Never pa naman, and honestly mas gusto ko yung hindi ako pinapansin, nakakahiya kasi lalo na kung window shopping lang naman tapos kung makapag-flex sila wagas tapos sisimangot ng konti kapag hindi ka bumili. On their part naintindihan ko yun kasi siyempre sayang effort. Kaya para walang hassle ayoko ng lalapitan ako," said Mommy Angel.
For Smart Parenting Mom Squad member Joselle Ona, she said, "If it did happen, malamang I didn’t notice. I don’t look at people around me. Introvert problems. Ayaw ng feeling tinitignan. Sorry na. Pero nakakasakit ng ego ha pag ganyan. I would’ve done the same if I were Mommy Dyan. Haha."
For Mommy Windy, she experienced this too and she just let it pass. "Yes, and I just let it go sa mga bagay na hindi ko naman kontrolado, we don't know maybe that person is may pinagdadaanan or not in a good mood, tao lang din sila diba, so ako na lang mag-adjust and will find a way or find another person na available."
Most of the time, a little kindness goes a long way. Shopping and retail therapy should be calming, not stressful!
Benefits of retail therapyADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
According to Very Well Family, a good shopping experience triggers the release of our endorphin hormones, which help reduce feelings of pain and increase feelings of pleasure.
However, we shouldn't mistake retail therapy with shopping addiction. Addiction happens when you keep buying things even if you are aware that you shouldn't.
1. It boosts your confidence
Being able to afford the things you want or need after working hard for it feels good.
2. It makes you feel in control.
For parents who feel like things are always messing up at home, shopping may reduce feelings of sadness and restore your hope that things will be okay.
3. It fuels your imagination.
Being in a new environment other than your home helps you to think creatively and feel better.
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