In our previous articles, we discussed the most important sexual issues that troubled our respondents—whether they were having enough sex or why they would feel dry all the time. This article talks about another concern of real moms—the pressure to perform.
Fear of High Expectations
When Astrud hears her friends talking around the office water cooler about the amazing sex they had the night before, or when she watches racy scenes in shows like Desperate Housewives, she feels that lovemaking with her husband is quaint and staid in comparison. She wonders whether sex with someone you love should be like that. Astrud and her husband have a decent sex life, but hardly one that involves screaming and moaning.
On the other hand, Margo is annoyed at how her husband demands that kind of raunchiness when they have intercourse. “He probably got the idea from something he read in a men’s magazine or in the porn collection he probably has,” she complains. “He always wants to try some bizarre position or trick.”
The problem is usually timing. “God, I am SO not in the mood for that, pag-uwi ko after the end of a long day,” she laments. “Puwede ba? Nagtumbling-tumbling na ako para maka-reach ng quota sa opisina, pati pa ba dito sa bahay?” Linda, another working mom, concurs. “Ano ba ‘yan, pati ba dito may performance evaluation?” It doesn’t help these moms that their husbands have high expectations from their sex lives.
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