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  • Growing Up, It Pained Me to Write 'Housewife' as My Mom's Occupation

    This writer shares how becoming a mom made her love her mother even more.
    by Din Real Bautista .
Growing Up, It Pained Me to Write 'Housewife' as My Mom's Occupation
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  • I used to hate the forms we filled out in elementary and high school — forms that asked about our parents’ occupation. I would put "OFW" for my dad’s profession, but for my mom, I had to write “housewife.”

    I can still remember how ashamed I was whenever I answered that question. I would always ask myself, “Why doesn’t mom have a job?” or “Why don’t we have a yaya or helper at home?”

    I would see my classmates’ answers, and almost all their moms were working as professionals while my mom was not. Since then, I told myself that I will be a lawyer so that my future kid would not be ashamed when he or she is asked about my occupation.

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    The author and her mom, Divina.
    PHOTO BY Din Real Bautista
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    My mom had always been a kontrabida in my life. She always scolded us and reprimanded us for the smallest of things. She would ask us to wash the dishes, clean the house, and so many more.

    Of course, I slowly but surely realized why mom had to be the mom she was to us, especially now that I am raising a 3-year-old daughter. In fact, I have become a stay-at-home mommy myself, and I feel so privileged to be in this set-up (thank you, husband!).

    My mother is an amazing woman, and I want to be like her.

    I now realize her job as a housewife is the greatest job ever, and I am thankful she is one.

    I thank her for all the times she said “no” to something I wanted. I really didn’t need whatever it was.

    I thank her for all the photos she would force us to take when we were kids. Now, I adore all those photo albums.

    I thank her for forcing me to clean my room and the whole house. It has made me independent (and, yes, it helps me now that I am a homemaker).

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    I thank her for being busy with chores and not minding us while we finished assignments and projects — it pushed me to learn on my own.

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    I thank her for reprimanding us because I learned right from wrong.

    I thank her for not making me feel unworthy whenever I failed.

    I thank her for being the mom and dad to us when my father passed away. She strived hard to make sure we had food on the table.

    “Now all I want is to raise my child the way mom raised me.”

    So, to you, mommy, I want you to know that even though I am still very far from what you have accomplished, I now understand why you nagged and complained you were tired.

    I now understand why you got mad that we didn’t clean our rooms or that we dirtied the bed.

    I now get why you never allowed me to go out with friends when I was in high school, why you didn’t allow me to sleepover at a friend’s house.

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    I now understand why we did not have a yaya growing up (I know because that’s what I want as well).

    "Thank you for being an amazing mother. I have always wanted to be a mother because of you.”

    Din Real Bautista is a proud full-time homemaker. Most of the time, she’s busy raising a kind-hearted and strong human being named Monica together with the most amazing husband, Beejay. And the rest of her time, she’s making sure her life is better outside social media.

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