If your sex life feels a little boring lately, maybe it's time to spice things up. If you're not into the whole sex toys thing, don't fret — there's something else you can do to heat up the between-the-sheets action without having to resort to accessories. Try giving you partner an erotic massage for a change.
In a recent study, it was revealed that a sensual massage is a skill that every couple, no matter what stage of the relationship they are in, should learn. It says simple things, such as a scalp massage or a foot rub, don't just relax and arouse your partner, it "can open up a whole new world of playtime for you and your lover."
Now, here's a step-by-step guide you should follow:
Make the room (and her) warm Making your love nest warm is the first thing you should do (heat relaxes the muscles, FYI). Light up those scented candles, play some soothing music, and preferably, take a warm bath (together of course) to further ease your muscles prior the massage. Remember: Your goal is to make your spouse feel like he's in his favorite spa. Put him in a satisfying state of relaxation.
Prepare the props Of course, a massage isn't complete without the necessities. You'll need to have lotion or massage oil ready for the sensual night ahead. For a truly romantic and sexy vibe, get one with a lavender scent. Also, don't forget to have soft pillows and warm towels ready by your bedside!
Now, on to the massage You don't need a degree in physical therapy to be able to give your partner an amazing back rub. Focus on the large muscles of the back, thighs and buttocks. Start with smooth effleurage strokes, or circular caresses with the fingertips or palm. If you find any particularly tense areas, either ease them out slowly or, if they're stubborn, use your knuckles for particularly tight areas. As always, start slowly and gently, and build up the pressure gradually.
Time for the sensual play Now that you've learned how to properly caress your spouse, the next step is to alternate those therapeutic presses with more erotic strokes. Try kneading the shoulder muscles before softly trailing your fingertips down the side of your lover's neck, or massaging the buttocks, then let your fingers stray to more intimate zones.
Last but not the least: communicate The best tips and techniques will come from your partner. Don't be shy to ask him what he wants. Of course, don't forget to pay attention to how he reacts while you're executing the tips above -- that'll be your ultimate guide.