In the Philippines many people still have a lot of hangups about sex, from just having it, to enjoying it, but there’s even more taboo around female sexual desire and pleasure. Despite all the expectations for Filipino women and motherhood, it seems we’re not expected to have fun during the baby-making process! How ridiculous is that?
But the truth is female pleasure can be a beautiful, amazing, empowering thing. All you have to do is explore!
It’s great to explore these things with your partner, and but it’s also kind of cool to figure these things out on your own. In a safe and healthy way, of course.
What’s a good way to do this? Well, have you considered sex toys?
The right toys for the right job
Sex toys. Can you say it without giggling, or feeling naughty? Can you look at sex toys without feeling embarrassed? Have you ever wondered what it’s like to use one?
And now you’re probably wondering, where do you buy one?
One of your options is Lauvette, which prides itself on being a “safe, fun, and inclusive sex toy shop in the Philippines with the mission of starting discussions about essential sex education.”
On their website is a pretty wide range of products intended for sexual pleasure–for her, for him, and for couples! If you’ve ever wondered what the different kinds of sex toys are, how they work, and how to use them safely, Lauvette’s online shop is a great resource. There is an extensive catalog of products at different price points (Php 169 for a mini vibrator!), and there are also thorough explanations for each kind! You don’t have to be shy if you want to know about the different kinds of vibrators or dildos, or if the model you want comes in your favorite shade of pink. There are descriptions and illustrations to show you the different designs of the toys. There are guides for which toy might be good for different needs, and which ones are recommended for beginners.
A lot of the products are sold in sets, so you get a pouch (to keep your toy safe and clean!) and a bottle of lubricant (to keep you smooth and juicy!). For your safety, they also offer condoms, and for hygiene purposes you can buy toy cleaners. For your curiosity and learning, there are downloadable guides to help you figure out your intimacy with your partner, or the hows and whys of female self-pleasure.
'Twice the fun'
What you might be curious to know is what it feels like to play with a sex toy, right?
Take a look at the Honey Sucking Panty Vibrator. The official description says this “2-in-1 clit sucker and vibrator” has “10 different vibrations and 10 different speeds.” It has a U-shaped design: one end is for your clitoris and the other can be inserted into your vagina to stimulate your G-spot. In case you’re worried about fit, know that the length of the vibrator end is 5.27 inches, and the diameter is 1-1.5 inches. It’s made of smooth body-safe silicone, waterproof, and rechargeable. The product description also says “wearable inside the panties”; go ahead and imagine all the ways that would be interesting!
If you’ve never tried a sex toy before, this one might seem a little intimidating. Yes, you can use both ends at the same time (there’s a picture on the product page). If you enjoy penetrative intercourse, one end goes inside your vagina; instead of your partner pushing his penis in, you decide how quickly and how deep it goes in. No need to push it all the way in if you’re uncomfortable, but go ahead if you enjoy it! If you enjoy clitoral stimulation, you will appreciate the clit sucker; that’s the end with the small round hole. Because of the u-shaped design, you get to enjoy both at the same time!
Because of the different speeds and vibrations, you get to decide when and how things happen. Whether you want it hard and fast because you only have a few minutes, or you want a slow burn for an all-nighter, you can choose the speed and vibration that works best for you.
By exploring your sexual needs by yourself, trying different things, you can figure out what you want, and how you want it.
Of course, lubricant is important. A few drops on either end should go a long way on your pleasure journey.
Why would you need a sex toy if you have a partner?
You’re probably thinking: why do it on my own? Even if you have a satisfying sex life with your partner, self-love–with or without sex toys–is still great for a number of reasons.
Self-love can be a part of your sexual relationship with your partner; the toys that entertain you when you go solo can be a part of your play when you finally get your time together.
By exploring your sexual needs by yourself, trying different things, you can figure out what you want, and how you want it. In the same way that it’s important to learn about your body, it’s also important to learn about what turns you on or off, what helps you reach climax, and what you’re willing to explore. If you know all these things about your body, it’s easier to communicate these with a sexual partner.
When you practice self-love, you are in control. You can stop or start anytime you want. You can take your time or get it over with quickly. You can choose chocolate or unflavored lubricant. It’s all up to you!
This also means that if your partner is unavailable for any reason, and the mood hits, you don’t have to wait around for them, because you can take care of your own needs. As a bonus, self-love can be a part of your sexual relationship with your partner; the toys that entertain you when you go solo can be a part of your play when you finally get your time together.
There are even benefits to your physical and mental health!
So, are you ready for some self-love?
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