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  • Toni Gonzaga Now Appreciates Her Parents' 'No Overnight Before Marriage' Rule

    She used to resent not being able to spend holidays with her then-boyfriend Paul Soriano.
    by Lei Dimarucut-Sison .
Toni Gonzaga Now Appreciates Her Parents' 'No Overnight Before Marriage' Rule
PHOTO BY @celestinegonzaga/Instagram
  • Mom of one Toni Gonzaga has just recently started vlogging (video logging), and uploaded her second entry entitled "Why It Pays to Wait" just a few days after her 35th birthday on January 20. In it, Toni chronicled the family's trip to Amanpulo, Palawan, which was a surprise gift from husband Paul Soriano.

    The trip may be a gift meant for Toni, but their son Seve clearly enjoyed every moment, too. The 2-year-old was all smiles as he explored their spacious villa, went splashing on the pool with his mom, and played with the white sand on the beach. Seve also loved feeding the fish after their breakfast on a floating cabana and clapped joyfully as his mom was serenaded during her birthday dinner. 

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    Amanpulo, awarded one of the best resorts in Asia by lifestyle magazine Conde Nast Traveler in 2018, is also where Toni and Paul spent their honeymoon after their wedding in June 2015. In the vlog, Toni said it was her dream to visit the island with Paul when they were still  boyfriend and girlfriend, but that never happened because her parents objected to the idea.

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    "Pag magpapaalam ako, alam na alam ko na agad ang sasabihin ni mommy, 'Wag ka nga feeling d'yan! Ano'ng gagawin niyo doon, mag-ho-honeymoon?!' Yun agad ang assumption nya," Toni said while imitating her mom Pinty

    Her father, Bonoy, on the other hand, was "OA [overacting] sa lahat ng OA," says Toni, and would always say, "Alam mo, Celestine (Toni's real name), malaki ka na. May pera ka, kumikita ka, kaya mong gawin lahat ng gusto mo. Gawin mo ‘yan. Pero ito lang ang masasabi ko sa ‘yo. Oras na ginawa mo ‘yan, tapos na ang pagiging ama ko sa iyo.'" 

    "Hinding-hindi ko na kakausapin si Paul kahit kailan at wala ka na ring ama."

    "Dahil ibig sabihin nun, hindi mo na ako sinusunod, gusto mo na ikaw ang masunod sa buhay mo, hindi ka na sumusunod sa aming mga magulang mo." 

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    Although she felt bad about her parents' reaction, the TV host complied to their wishes just the same. "Hindi ko na tinuloy mga ganoong plano ko, kasi makaluma sila e," she explains.

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    "Nung buong mag-boyfriend and girlfriend kami ni Paul, never naming na-experience itong ganito. Hanggang tingin na lang ako sa mga pictures ng mga couple at umaasa na one day sana ma-experience ko sya." After seven and a half years, Paul sought the blessing of Toni's parents before asking for her hand in marriage.

    She credits Paul for his sacrifices, saying he never once asked her to bend the rules.

    "Nakakabilib din naman si Paul. Kasi for eight years never niyang sinabi sa 'kin na 'Magrebelde ka na, gawin mo na 'yung gusto mo, may pera ka na.'"

    "He always tells me lang na 'What can we do? That's the rule of your parents. We just have to listen and obey them."

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    "God's perfect time," is how Toni calls the fulfillment of her Amanpulo dreams, and much, much more. "I realized that your obedience and sacrifice will always be rewarded in the end. Medyo matagal ang hinintay ko para ma-experience ko ito, pero it was all worth it.

    "Kaya pala ako pinaghintay nang matagal, kasi may magandang nakalaan," she sums up the beautiful lessons she learned from her parents' old-fashioned ways. 

    "Maybe there are some things in your life you're in a rush to get to or to have. It may hurt now to wait, but it will always be more than you ever dreamed of if you remain patient. Don't lose hope. Darating ang time, ibibigay din sa 'yo ni Lord ang pinagdarasal mo." 

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