• Ayaw Magpababa ni Baby? A Mom Swears There Are Benefits

    What can you do if your baby wants to sleep on your chest and carried almost 24/7?
    by Rachel Perez .
Ayaw Magpababa ni Baby? A Mom Swears There Are Benefits
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  • When you were pregnant, you were excited to hold your baby in your arms. You had to wait nine months after all. So you wanted to cuddle as much as you can, and your baby felt the same way, too, so much so that "ayaw nang magpababa ni baby."

    Before you know it, you're saying buh-bye to pee breaks (and to-do list) and hello to dead limbs. Not only does he not want let go of you when he is awake, but your baby also wants a "contact nap" each time. He wants to sleep on your chest so you cannot move. You know he'll cry like there's no tomorrow every time you try to put him down or give him to someone else, even his dad.

    There's a phrase for this situation: your baby is stuck to you like Velcro.

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    If you're a mom to a "Velcro baby," Katherine Thornalley, the mom of two behind the blog Mrs. Mombastic, has a message of support for you.

    "Baby has just fallen asleep on me. I spend a few minutes browsing Facebook and then, my mind [wanders] towards the dishes piling up in the sink. The pile of laundry stacked up in the bathroom. The dust that has settled on the TV. I start to feel guilty. I start thinking about work that could be done. Or food that needs to be cooked. I try to put baby down, but no way. Baby is having NONE of it," Thonalley wrote.

    The blogger mom then suggested looking at the situation from a different perspective. What if contact naps and babies who always want to be carried are signs that moms need to slow down and relax? 

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    "It’s meant to be for OUR benefit," Thornelly argues. "To sit back for just a moment, and forget about everything else going on in life. To take in the beauty of our children, and REST," she stressed.

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    Giving birth whether vaginally or via a C-section takes a toll on a woman's body. It needs time to recover and heal; after all, your uterus will have a wound that's the size of a dinner plate after childbirth. A study says a woman's body needs at least a year to recover physically from childbirth. Add more months, even years, to that if you're taking into consideration emotional and mental recovery as well.

    "There are always a million things that need to be done before the day is over," Thornelly continued. "Perhaps our babies and children needing us to be still with them is nature's way of telling us to slow down for just a moment," she said. "Rest mama. Take the opportunity."

    Perhaps this mom is right: we probably should stop thinking that a Velcro baby is punishment. Those baby cuddles and contact naps shape your baby's emotional core. It can be one of those "this, too, shall pass" moments of motherhood that you really don't want to miss.

    What do you think of her message? Sound off on the comments!

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