One way to keep a strong parent-child bond is by building a daily dose of connection. It is not enough that we only tell them how much we love them because often, things are better with actions. But what if some of our actions result to the other way around? Here are 5 parenting habits that can cause disconnection between you and your child.
1. Pointing out the negative in them.
Correcting and reprimanding a child’s misbehavior is part of one’s parenting journey. But paying attention to the negative while losing sight of their positive traits sometimes leaves a child to be rebellious and angry. Remember, it is okay to set rules as long as they understand that you are not overly criticizing them, but are instead helping them to work out the why’s of their misbehavior.
2. Too much screen time.
Who here isn't guilty of always checking their phones? Frequent use of devices in front of your child creates a wall that disconnects you from them. Limit yourself as how you would also limit your child on his screen time.
Kids feel the pressure when they are compared to others. Instances like these make them question themselves and come up with a realization that what they have been doing is not valuable to you as their parent. Recognize their emotions and feelings because, after all, everyone is different.
4. Not being available.
It is how you educate your children that teaches them how to view the world around them. The quickest way to their hearts is still by providing quality time rather than rewarding them with a lot of material gifts or presents. Spending time with them is the easiest and the greatest way to build connection and to grow the attachment between you and them.
5. Using close-ended questions.
Connection starts with listening. Use open-ended questions and avoid jumping to conclusions. For example, if your kids get into a fight, most responses will be “Did you start it?” “Did you even apologize?”, which prevents them from opening up about their emotions. Instead, give them the opportunity to explain things by saying, “Tell me what happened” because through that, they will feel how much you care and trust their words.