With kids, every moment is a teaching opportunity. But sometimes, instead of the parents doing the teaching, it’s the young ones who surprise us with their innocence and wisdom. Mom Jheezel Orbina Panga experienced this firsthand when her 6-year-old son, Alh, taught her a very important lesson on kindness after she got angry with his son’s low grades in school.
On a now-viral Facebook post, Jheezel shares how disappointed she was that her son’s grades during the first grading were all in the line of 7s. “Obviously, walang magulang na matutuwa diyan,” she writes. “At oo! Talagang nainis ako at napagalitan ko siya that day. I even scolded him the following day. Nasabon ko talaga siya to the extent na maiyak siya.”
Although Jheezel felt bad that she had to discipline her son, she knew it had to be done to teach her son about the importance of learning. But the mom’s heart softened when she heard her son’s prayers that night.
In an interview with SmartParenting.com.ph via Facebook messenger, the 25-year-old stay-at-home-mom says that her son told her: “Sabi niya, ‘Papa Jesus sana tumalino na ako para hindi na nagagalit si Mama. Ang bobo ko kasi. Marunong naman na ako magbasa ng konti pero mababa pa rin grades ko.”
Jheezel admits that after hearing her son, she realized she was wrong to judge her son based on his grades. “That broke my heart. ‘Di ko napapansin nagiging hard na pala ako masyado sa kanya,” she shares. “Humingi ako ng pasensya kung lagi ko siyang napapagalitan. Gusto ko lang naman siyang lumaki ng tama at may values. Sinabi ko pa na okay lang kahit hindi mataas grades niya basta maging mabuting bata lang siya masaya na’ko.”
She then started to remember all his good deeds, which she shared on her Facebook post.
“Although makulit din siya at pasaway minsan, na-realize ko na meron akong intelligently-different na anak. Paano ko nasabi? Siya kasi ‘yung tipo ng anak na laging may ganitong senaryo...
“Mama, birthday ng classmate ko bukas. Pabaunan mo ko kanin tapos dalawang itlog, bibigyan ko siya para surprise.
“Mama, alam mo ‘yung classmate ko kawawa kasi wala siyang baon. Eh diba may baon akong biscuit tapos may 20 pa’ko. Binigyan ko siya 5 para makabili siya soup.
“Mama, yung classmate ko laging masakit yung kamay kaya [pinag-sulat] ko siya sa notebook niya.
“Mama, paglaki ko bibilhan kita ng kotse para ‘di ka na mahihirapan sa’min ni Aki ‘pag aalis tayo na tatlo lang tayo. Kita ko kasi hirap na hirap ka ‘pag tatawid na tayo.
“Mama, maglaba ka lang diyan. Ako na bahala kay Aki.
“Mama, mag-aalkansya ako para may pang-kasal na kayo ni Papa."
Jheezel tells Smart Parenting, “Nung naalala ko ang mga ‘yun, doon ko na-realize na blessed pala ako kasi mabuting bata ang anak ko at hindi na mahalaga kung mababa man o mataas ang marka niya.”
She says that feeling of gratitude prompted her to share her musings on Facebook, which, as of this writing, has gotten more than 232,000 shares, 431,000 reactions, and 47,000 comments. “As a mom, I want to inspire and give awareness to other parents. We must not push our children to the extent that we’re already sacrificing their mental health and well-being,” she explains. “We must invest in our children’s values, not on their report cards.”
The mom of two adds that apart from a lesson on kindness, her son also taught her to always appreciate her children. “Walang ibang magmamahal at makaka-appreciate sa mga anak natin kundi tayo ring mga magulang nila,” she shares.
Now that the mom has experienced a change of perspective, she’s confident that her son will grow up to be a good person. “Basta ang lagi kong sinasabi sa kanya, huwag siyang madamot at saka lagi siyang gagawa ng tama kahit walang nakatingin,” Jheezel says. “Proud ako kasi bata pa siya, malalim na ang level of understanding niya.”
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