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  • 'Di Kasundo si Teacher? Make Her Your Ally With These 5 Tips

    Your child's teacher is the best person to give you feedback about his performance
    by Lei Dimarucut-Sison .
'Di Kasundo si Teacher? Make Her Your Ally With These 5 Tips
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  • When your child starts going to school (playschool or preschool), you will find that not only do you have to deal with separation anxiety for the first time, you’ll also need to learn to trust another person with your child — his teacher.

    You might find yourself struggling with a few issues in this new chapter of your child’s life. Most of it will be pleasant as you discover your child’s strengths and social aptitude, and as you see him slowly becoming his own self. Since you won’t be in school with your child all the time, the best person who could provide feedback on your child’s school performance is his teacher. But what if the two of you don’t hit it off?

    How to make the teacher your ally

    There are many reasons you, the parent, may take a dislike to your child’s teacher — some of them may be a difference in teaching style, in carrying out discipline strategies, or a function of your personalities. Whatever it is, you need to keep in mind that the teacher is your ally, and it is in your best interest to be in good relations with her.

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    Keep your feelings to yourself

    Do not talk ill of the teacher with other parents and certainly not in your child’s presence. “Negative comments from you will confuse your child, and he’ll go into the situation with less respect for the teacher,” Nikita Crook, a child and adolescent psychotherapist in West Vancouver, told Today’s Parent.

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    Be objective

    If the teacher calls your attention regarding a problem with your child, don’t take it as an attack on you (or your child). Set up a meeting with a clear objective in mind: to find out as much as you can about the situation so you’d know how to address it. Ask the right questions and avoid sounding accusatory. End the meeting by expressing your willingness to cooperate.

    Communicate

    Misunderstandings spring from a lack of communication a lot of times, especially if you’re relying on your young child, who may still be struggling with words himself, to be the messenger. If you are doubtful about something, schedule a meeting with the teacher for an amicable discussion. Who knows? You might end up seeing her in a new light.

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    Get involved

    There doesn’t need to be anything wrong for you to show up in school. Show your support for activities like Family Day or fundraisers when you can. Your child will benefit from your presence, and his teacher will appreciate the gesture.

    Build on respect

    If you can’t shake off your dislike for your child’s teacher, it still should not be a hindrance to building good relations with her (although it helps). Being in good terms with your child’s teacher does not require you to like her — it only needs you both to have mutual respect. 

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