Research Says These 7 Techniques Are The Most Effective When Disciplining A Child

Kids bring joy to their parents’ lives, but sometimes, they can also stress Mom and Dad out, especially when they misbehave. While there is no one way to discipline a child who misbehaves, experts also say that certain methods work better than others. Learn about some of those methods below.

The best methods to discipline a child, according to experts

Having a calm but stern conversation

Research has shown that talking to a child calmly and empathetically, even when he misbehaves, can lead to an honest and mature conversation about his bad behavior and what you would like to see him doing instead. Conversely, yelling has been found to make behavior problems worsen through time.

Listening

Kids don’t act out for no reason; there are always reasons behind a child’s behavior, which is why the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says it’s important for moms and dads to let their kids explain themselves before helping find a solution to the issue.

Using positive reinforcement

Instead of simply pointing out your child’s mistakes, which can make him feel bad about himself, make it a habit to notice the good things he does and the efforts he gives to behave properly. Use phrases like, “I love it when you…” and “It was so nice of you to do that!” Harvard Health Publishing says kids are more likely to behave properly if they feel that they are well-appreciated.

Establishing rules and consequences

Set limits with regards to what your child is allowed and not allowed to do, as well as the consequences that he will have to face if he doesn’t follow the rules. Aside from this, don’t forget to be firm in implementing the rules. No should mean no; if you give in out of exhaustion or desire to avoid a tantrum, your child might take advantage.

Taking away privileges

SheKnows says that taking away privileges when a child misbehaves — like not allowing him to play with his toys for a specific amount of time — teaches him how to own up to his missteps and shows him what he needs to do if he doesn’t want those privileges taken away from him.

Calling a time-out

The AAP says that time-outs are an effective discipline tool when a child breaks a specific rule, like when he starts hurting the people around him. Start by telling him that if he doesn’t stop, you’ll give him a time-out. This can also teach your child how to control his emotions. As for how long your child should be on time-out, the AAP says a good rule of thumb is one minute for every year of your child’s age (for example, three minutes for a three-year-old).

Knowing when not to respond

Sometimes, simply ignoring your child’s bad behavior can be a good means to make him stop behaving badly, given that he’s not doing anything dangerous. It’s another way to teach him the consequences of his actions on his own, says the AAP.