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  • 7 Crucial Moments When You Need to Intervene in Your Kids' Fights

    Sometimes, letting your kids resolve their conflict by themselves might not be the best idea.
    by Kate Borbon .
7 Crucial Moments When You Need to Intervene in Your Kids' Fights
  • If you have a sibling, you know what it is like: you cannot help but fight or bicker with each other. Maybe it stops when you grow up (hmmm), but sibling arguments cannot be avoided. As parents, you now see your kids scream at each other because they do not want to share toys or they have different personalities and temperaments. It is inevitable for kids to occasionally fail to see eye to eye, just like adults do.

    Many professionals say it is better for parents to allow the children to make up with each other on their own, but children usually don’t have the skills yet nor the willingness needed to understand their sibling’s points of view, so it is necessary for a parent or guardian to intervene.

    When to step in your kids’ arguments

    Kids Health says that always involving yourself in sibling squabbles can lead to a plethora of issues, such as them never learning how to work out their problems by themselves. Still, in some cases, without your intervention, the argument might only get worse and more challenging to resolve. Learn more about those instances below.


    If one (or both) of them are physically hurt

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    There are instances when, during fights, siblings hurt one another — maybe by pushing, shoving, hitting, punching, or slapping each other. In situations like this, it’s crucial for an adult to intervene and separate them to prevent things from escalating even more. I will also allow them to calm down.

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    If there is a risk they might get hurt

    You may have also encountered situations where one of your children is daring his or her sibling to do, eat, or drink something potentially dangerous. In other cases, maybe one child, for some reason, thinks it would be fun to lock his or her sibling in a closet or a box or even outside the house. Obviously, all of those instances can be hazardous to your child’s safety and well-being.

    If they are being disruptive

    Let’s be real: It can be challenging to keep your cool when you hear your children yelling at each other non-stop inside the home. For the sake of your own mental wellbeing, step in, and put the screaming to a halt.


    If they use inappropriate words

    Hurting one another might not just involve physical actions — some kids might also resort to using mean statements and words to their siblings. These can include insults like “Ang pangit mo!”, threats like “Paluin kita d’yan!”, and even swear words. Unless you step in and make clear that those words are not to be used in your home, the kids might just keep saying them when they get angry.

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    If it involves someone else’s child

    When your kids’ friends are at your home or when you are outdoors, your children’s arguments might end up involving other kids that they are playing with. You might know how to deal with your children’s fights, but your rules might not necessarily apply to the other kids, which means that you — and maybe even the parents of that other kids — might really have to step in.


    If there is an unequal power dynamic

    If you have an older child who is picking a fight with their sibling who is much younger than them, the younger child might not know how to defend himself or herself and end up feeling like he or she has the shorter end of the stick. In these cases, allowing your kids to resolve their conflicts by themselves might not be such a good idea.

    If they ask you for help

    This doesn’t mean those times when your kids invoke your name to justify their actions (“Sabi ni Mommy, akin itong toy eh!”) or to taunt their sibling (“Isusumbong kita kay Mama!”). Rather, it means those times when your child calmly and politely approaches you and asks for your assistance, to help them resolve the conflict. It might take a while to instill this habit in them, but it’s a good way for them to learn that you’re willing to help if they ask you nicely, and for you to teach them how to make up peacefully.

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