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    Among my friends, I was always singled out as the one most likely to become a mom. I soon found out that marriage and motherhood are highly overrated when you’re a single girl. Some of the things I vowed I’d never do or get into are the same things that make up who I am as a mom today!

    1. Give birth without painkillers.  
    During my own pregnancy, I looked like the model mom: cool, smiling, smartly attired. Inside, I was as secure as an ice cream cone on a hot stove: I was freaking out at the thought of giving birth. Naturally; my tolerance for pain on a scale of 1 to 10 is a measly 2! Good thing my OB-Gyn was able to coach me through a natural childbirth. Not only was I able to give birth without anesthesia, but I hardly felt any pain. So I can say for a fact that no matter how much you fear pain, giving birth is possible without pain—and without swearing at your husband!

     

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    2. Breastfeed my kid for more than one year.
    I was told that some Asians didn’t have the “well-endowed” genome in the mammary department. And so, I got semi-depressed whenever I’d see or hear my friends complain about their C and D cups while I had to content myself with a B. That is, until I bulged out into a D cup during my second month of motherhood. Breastfeeding was an empowering experience for me, albeit painful at times (especially when I went through mastitis, and I didn’t think I’d last as long as I have. My son is now 23 months, and though he’s been self-weaning from the boob, my milk is still here for him when he needs it.

     

    3. Let my kid watch TV.
    I swore I’d keep the “no TV” rule until my kid was at least two years old. That is, until the day I first plopped him in front of the tube when he was barely a year old. And I’ve done so many more times, especially when I was too frazzled with chores or out of ideas to entertain him. The pay-off: At least I know that Sesame Street will be the perfect motif for his upcoming birthday party!

     

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    4. Use disposable diapers for my baby.
    My mom was the cloth diaper advocate even before all these new-fangled hybrids of cloth diapers started popping up. She ordered cloth diapers all the way from the Babies ‘R’ Us down the street from my uncle’s house - in California - just so her firstborn grandkid could experience natural diapering at its finest. I lasted about 3 months going exclusively cloth before giving in to disposables. They couldn’t be all that bad, especially when my time and sanity were on the line. (Note: I still use cloth diapers on my son, who’s now in the toilet-training phase, but I alternate between cloth and disposables now.)

     

    5. Feed my baby processed and fast food.
    I’ve been a pretty disciplined mom when it comes to food. I’ve fed my kid organic food from the get-go, always made sure his meals had fruits and veggies, slaved over recipes for his diet’s sake, and have given him breastmilk for the past 23 months. Call it a twisted philosophy, but this is why I can justify letting him eat processed and fast food on occasion - and by “on occasion,” I mean once or twice a month max. We eat healthily at home, so if someone slips him a French fry or we happen to be having Spam and sugary cookies over at a relative’s house, I can comfort myself knowing that my little one eats healthily under my roof anyway!


     

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    6. Hire a nanny.
    Oh, I wanted to do it all, you know: be a hands-on mommy. And I am! I work from home and am with my kid 24/7. But I have my limits. And since the little guy began walking and running around, I’ve not been able to keep up with his demands to play non-stop. Hiring a nanny to watch him through the day as I work has done wonders for my schedule—and my sanity.


     

    7. Wear “L” or “XL” clothes.
    I used to be a size 6 when I was single; today, three years later and two years into motherhood, I’m a size 10. I try to see it as a positive thing—I’m more “curvy” now: I’ve got more curves, mainly from the extra pounds on my posterior, the extra “boob-age” up front, and that little pooch that used to be an adorable belly bump. I’m still working on my inner Heidi Klum/Giselle Bundchen so I can see my flat tummy again.


     

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    8. Have thunder thighs.
    I used to eat like a teenage boy and never get fat. Today, I’m happy if I can fit into a pair of hipster jeans. Call it “mommy curves” or some other Oprah-esque allusion to glorify the maternal, female body: I have thighs like a Christmas ham.


    9. Have sex without feeling sexy.
    I’ve come to the conclusion that lingerie and foreplay are overrated at times when you’ve just got to get it on. I thought my husband would never find me attractive again. Turns out that you can have sex in the oddest of times and places, and you’re more likely to improvise with a kid around. *Wink*


    10. Write for a parenting publication
    —like the one you’re reading now. Sure, I worked in a preschool for seven years during my single life. Sure, I counseled preteen girls during my internship at a local church. But write about the parenting journey and give other moms tips on how to rock at it was the farthest thing from my mind as a single person. Now, I make a living from it.


    What are some of the things you said you’d never do but ended up taking back when you became a mom? Tell us all about it! Hit the comment box below.

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