Back in the day, taking care of the child and the home had solely fallen under a woman's responsibility as the husband works to provide for his family's needs. Today, however, some households have seen a reversal of roles where women pursue a career and make enough of a living to support their family, and it's the men who stay at home.
Unfortunately, our society doesn't always take a positive look at stay-at-home dads, often referred to as househusbands, which is too bad. They show that men can run the household, and they are nurturing and loving as moms.
Besides, does it matter who stays at home and who works? Does it always have to be the role of the father to provide? If it works for the family, then why not, right?
Meet three proud househusbands who could not agree more.
Von Jester Gallardo has been a stay-at-home dad for five months now. He didn't like leaving his daughter, Lexine, without any parental supervision. He also didn't want to miss his daughter's milestones.
“I feel very special that I get to experience her every day. No negative impact on our side, that's what's important. But Leslee (Mom) still does the job better than I do in taking care of the household.”
Does he need a yaya or helper? Von replies, “I can do it alone as long as you make a routine (which is so not me). But it's less tiring if I have a yaya or household help, at least that way I can focus on Lexine all day.”
Speaking about his role further, Von says, “There's no comparison between a father and a mother. And while I believe the mothers play a very important role, being a father is equally important too. Father's Day should be celebrated as much as Mother's Day as well, not because I'm a father but because I was a son first.”
Jervie Lauron, a stay-at-home dad for four years, says that there’s nothing wrong with being a househusband because it’s always a matter of give-and-take. It also takes a deeper understanding between the husband and wife who know that “what’s important is the welfare and safety of the children.”
Jervie is a proud homemaker, and he and his wife make it a point that their children understand the situation and won’t have a negative effect on their family. They don’t mind what other people say as long as they know what works best for them.
When we asked if moms and dads play an equal role and if he can do what moms can, he said, “Yes! Lahat naman ng bagay napapag-aralan at natututunan.”
You can say that Ron Rosero is a part-time househusband because his schedule as a dentist makes it more flexible to be at home more. He has been on househusband duties since his wife’s maternity leave ended.
“I can schedule my patients so that I can care for my daughter between appointments.” He said that sometimes he schedules appointments with his patients during lunch time since his wife, Hazel, comes home to spend her lunch break with him and their daughter, Nixi.
“This flexible schedule also allows me to do some household chores that otherwise would be difficult to do if I worked full time. It can feel like my dentistry is part-time and my parenting is full-time as a result.”
As for the negative light cast upon the stay-at-home father, Ron said, “It’s just a matter of having the right attitude and a more nurturing mindset, unlike in previous generations where the husband was not expected to be directly involved in the raising of the child."
Ron has been taking care of Nixi and his dentistry practice without a yaya. “It helped that my wife’s office is a few minutes’ walk away from home and she comes home during lunch so I can go to the clinic or just simply take a breather. I’m also grateful for the grandparents who would sometimes come over and take care of my daughter during days when I have lengthy procedures.”
Ron feels the reversal of roles will have a good effect on their daughter when she grows up. "Raising a child is the responsibility of both parents these days, whether one or the other is working or not. And short of breastfeeding, dads can do anything moms can and vice versa. In our case, I’m the one who can cook while Hazel handles the finances. My wife and I also have interchangeable chores and, humility aside, our daughter is thriving because of our shared roles.”
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Din Real Bautista is a proud full-time homemaker. Most of the time, she’s busy raising a kind-hearted and strong human being named Monica with the help of the most amazing husband, Beejay. And the rest of her time, she’s making sure her life is better outside social media.