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12 Comics Capture What Motherhood Is Like the First and Second Time
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  • You are not the same parent when you have your second child. With your firstborn, you were scared, felt indecisive with everything, and handled your eldest like glass. With a second (or third) child especially when the sibling age gap isn't that big, you're a different parent. You still wonder whether you know what you're doing, but you can now tell yourself, "I've got this."

    Weng Chen, a video game developer from Seattle, Washington, wonderfully illustrates the difference between having your first- and second-born kids. She draws from her experience as a mom to two girls, Electra and Ali

    "You are nervous, excited and energetic for the first child, and these feelings fade away after you have more children," Weng, who goes by the handle Messy Cow, told The Huffington Post. "But it doesn’t mean you love them less. You are just more relaxed, mature and really exhausted — oh, kind of broke, too!" she added.

    Here are some of our favorites from her comics collection:

    You can still be a queen when you're pregnant with your second. You just can't get away with some things.


    A second baby on the way means you're not overly worried about what you eat.

    You are more lenient about "rules."

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    You're a lot less panicky when you become a mom for the second time.

    You know better about shopping when the second baby arrives.


    With two kids, you have less free time on your hands.


    Once the second comes, you're not overreacting at every single milestone.

    Well, sometimes you do. 

    Weng has always dreamt of being a comic artist until family life put that dream on hold. "When my second child turned two, I had the urge to start again because if I didn't, I might never achieve my dream," Weng told Buzzfeed. "It's been a fun and meaningful way to document my children's growth — and mine," she added.  


    Weng regularly posts about parenting. Check out her website, or follow her on Tumblr, Twitter, and or on Facebook to see more of her work.

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