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As Jim Bacarro reflected on fatherhood, he couldn't help going back to the time he and his wife Saab Magalona were to find out they were expecting to become parents.
"You should behave during the pregnancy. I was such a...Ang arte ko talaga."
Saab inquired, "What do you mean?"
Jim replied, "I was still thinking about my sensitivity that time. You know what it was like...I hated the fact that I should've let you get mad at me. And in fairness to Saab, she was not, she's not a pregnancy horror story but she was different from her usual self.
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"And it was an adjustment for me and I wish I knew that when you see it, you just need to keep quiet forever. So the second pregnancy you could say that I was, like, I learned my lesson and I'm okay."
In February 2018, Saab gave birth to twins but only one baby, Pancho, lived. Over a year later, she gave birth to another boy, Vito.
These days, Jim just loves being dad to Pancho and Vito. He said, "I tell all my friends who are all not fathers because all our friends are young. I always say life gets harder when you become a father but it's so much easier to understand...My why has been so clear."