Any parent who has raised both a son and a daughter will agree that both are different in so many ways. Though we refuse to adhere to stereotypes, boys have qualities that are unique to them, as do girls. And that’s okay.
The problem arises when other people make mean comments that highlight those qualities and make it sound like one gender is better than the other. These comments can be hurtful, and as we found out from members of the Smart Parenting Village, parents of boys often just prefer to ignore them. While they may have been said in jest, or in an attempt at humor, moms of boys say they wish people were more tactful.
Here are some of the most hurtful things said against parents of boys
“Di pa nagsasalita anak mo. Lalaki kasi eh.” — Queen Mendoza, mom to a 2-year-old boy
“Breastfeeding ka, di na maalis sa tabi mo yan. [Magiging] mama’s boy na yan.” — Liz Simangca, mom to a 6-month-old boy
“Gusto ng kitty? Bakla pala tong anak mo e.” — My Adrian Pedere, mom to a 4-month-old baby
“That my boy is ‘too soft’. He loves to read and paint and not much of a sports fan because he has asthma and gets tired easily. He likes board games instead, and puzzles and anything about Star Wars, Harry Potter, and Legos, and some of my husband’s peers tease that he is ‘malambot’ for a boy just because he does not fit the social norm of a brusko male. He is smart, tactful, and thoughtful. He respects the elderly and his sister, it is sad that we expect boys to be rowdy and wild, and then get mad when we see boys who disrespect other people so they can insinuate their ‘manliness.’ I hope one day that we find ways to appreciate men who were raised well. And don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that rowdy or hyper boys are not raised well, it can be that that is their personality — and that is totally fine.” — Dani Ramos
“Ay nako, mas mabuting babae ang panganay! Tignan mo yan, pababayaan ka niyan pagtanda [mo].” —Andrea Data-Ko
“Ang likot ng anak mo parang trumpo, malamang kapag lumaki na ‘yan maging sakit ng ulo ‘yan.” or “Nung pinagbubuntis mo ba ‘yan umiinom ka rin ng energy drink, kaya siguro ang hyper.” — Anj Trilles, mom to a 3-year-old boy
“May ADHD ata anak mo, hindi mapirmi, bakit mga pinsan nya (who are girls) hindi naman ganyan.” —Nicole Victoria, mom to 2 boys