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Lance Gokongwei's Secret To Raising Responsible, Disciplined Kids: 'My Wife'
PHOTO BY courtesy of JG Summit Holdings
  • They say behind every great (and successful) man is an even greater woman. Just ask Lance Gokongwei, president and chief executive officer of JG Summit Holdings, Inc.

    The dad of two has always kept a low profile, so it was refreshing to hear him talk about his family life and parenting style during a candid conversation with editors of the titles published under Summit Media, which includes SmartParenting.com.ph. Surprisingly, he credits having responsible and disciplined kids to his wife, Jay.

    “I have zero problems with my kids, and I think maybe my wife has done [mainly] a great job with them,” he shares.

    “My kids are more disciplined than me or my sisters were, I would say. Maybe it’s a Gen Z thing,” he adds.

    With everyone staying at home because of the COVID-19 pandemic, Lance says he has been spending more time than ever with his two kids, Hannah and Jacob. With distance learning in place, has the kids ever asked him for help with their homework?

    “They really have very good study habits. I’m only good for certain things,” the businessman shares with a smile.

    The dad admits he’s “very impatient” so don’t expect him to be good in anything creative. “I’m good for history, I’m good for economics, I’m good for Math and Science,” the CEO says.

    Lance Gokongwei's dad life

    When it comes to parenting, Lance shares his secret: “I always just support my wife. I guess she’s the gold standard in parenting.


    “To make a little bit yabang, if my wife allows our kids to do [something], almost every other parent would say, ‘That must be okay, if they do the same activity,’” Lance says, beaming with pride.

    “She’s probably the border between being too strict and being too lax,” he says of his wife’s parenting style. “They trust her judgment.”

    As a member of a prominent family, Lance admits he also tries to shield his kids from the burden that comes from being a Gokongwei.

    “With Google and all that, their friends know exactly who their parents or who their grandparents are so they carry a little bit of that weight or burden or name with them,” he says.

    “We’d rather remain low-key. I think it’s going to be very difficult for our kids. Even people who are like 10 years old or 12 years old, they just Google my kid’s family name and then they’ll come up and then they’ll start getting labeled or characterized or whatever in their schools,” he adds.

    Lance and his wife try their best to raise their children to become independent and their own person.

    “I’d rather they have their own identity rather than being a kid of somebody,” he says.

    “At home, they have to follow the rules. They have to respect people…they have to respect people who work with us. There’s no sense of entitlement. We try to praise or acknowledge them for the effort of working hard, not for fortunes of birthright,” the COO shares.

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