Mama, Let Me Tell You Something: You Are Enough
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  • I know that feeling that eats you up inside. The guilt that you can't seem to shake off. You feel like no matter what you do, you are never good enough as a mom, no matter how much you sacrifice or how hard you work to keep your kids fed, bathed, and well-behaved, you can never seem to keep up with all the perfect parents you see online. So I'm here to tell you that mama, you are enough.

    You want to give your children the world and the best this life has to offer but even while you've been doing back- breaking work you never can seem to afford all the great things you would want for them. Don't worry about it too much. Having you in their life is the greatest gift in the world, because mama, you are enough.

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    You feel like you are stretched too thin, you cram so many different things and responsibilities into one day with just two hands and one body. You feel bad because you're always so busy, you don't get to spend as much time with your family as you would like. While you’re away you worry about them constantly—is he tired, is he hungry, is she broken hearted? You feel like they are being shortchanged having you as their mom. Please cut yourself some slack; your kids know that you are doing the best that you can given the situation, and for them, mama, even with the little quality time you get to spend with them, you are enough.

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    You look in the mirror and notice the lines on your face, the dark circles around your eyes, and the growing strands of grey hair. You never seem to have time for yourself, you barely have time to comb, and now you wonder where your youth and beauty have gone. You feel bad and ashamed that you don't look like all the pretty moms on TV who seem to have their lives figured out with their perfectly-styled hair, flawless skin, and manicured nails. Oh but mama, that's just the magic of make up, lighting, and pretend-perfect parenting. Remember that in the eyes of the little people who shower you with kisses at bed time, you are beautiful beyond compare because for them, you are enough.   

    Never mind the people who roll their eyes at you whenever your little one throws a fit in the grocery aisle. Yes, those who give you dirty looks and a judgmental stare, who make you feel like you're never good enough, who smirk arrogantly and whisper ‘bad mother’. All they see is a misbehaving tot and a desperate mom trying to make him stop. They only see a small snippet of your life as a mother, not the entire picture. 

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    They don't see you working overtime so you can afford your child's tuition. They're not there when you wake up at dawn to prepare your family's breakfast and your children's lunch box. They don't see you on your third sleepless night as you watch over your sick child. And they’re not there in the shower while you cry your eyeballs out because of exhaustion, but still you carry on. They don't have a clue about the many things you've given up and sacrificed for the love of your children. They don't know you, they don't have any idea about you as a mom.

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    Remember that these people who judge you—who say you are not good enough—they don't matter anyway. And for the people who do, the little ones who depend on you, mama, you are enough. 

    Sure, you are not perfect—and you can never be because no one is. Not even the beautiful celebrity moms you see on TV or that pretty mommy blogger you follow daily. All moms have beautiful flaws and imperfections, all moms fail at parenting in some ways. We all make mistakes and learn from them. There is really no manual for parenting—we are all just guided by our love for our children and learn along the way.

    And at the end of the day, in the eyes of the little people who truly matter, you are the best mother in the world. They wouldn’t want any other mother singing them songs, preparing their meals, tucking them in at night and giving them kisses on their forehead. Because to them, to your precious children, mama, you are enough. 

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