Do you find yourself constantly asking your child to put down their phone or tablet? Are you frustrated having screens on the dinner table, spending more time looking at the tops of your family’s heads rather than talking to them in their faces and enjoying the meal? If so, you’re not alone–managing digital use and screen time is a common challenge for millennial parents. However, actress, parenting advocate, and motivational speaker Maricel Laxa-Pangilinan reminds us of an important point: It starts with us.
Parents set the example
In a video posted on Instagram, Maricel emphasizes a key point that we at Smart Parenting have always believed: children tend to mirror their parents’ actions. This means that parents must lead and teach by example–and the same principle applies to gadget use. If parents are always glued to their phones and tablets, children will naturally follow suit. As Maricel explains, “Kung nakikita nila, kapag kausap natin sila, naggaganyan pa tayo, hindi man lang tayo tumigil para kausapin sila ng mata sa mata, gagawin din nila yun sa atin.”
This highlights the importance of parents modeling screen-free conversations and interactions. When parents prioritize undistracted or screen-free conversations and interactions, children are more likely to learn the value of real, face-to-face communication.
Gadget use during meals
Maricel also raises an important point about the role gadgets play during family meals. Mealtime is usually an essential time for families to catch up, bond, and share experiences. Unfortunately, these days, it becomes a missed opportunity when family members are absorbed in their screens. “How much time do you spend in the gadgets? Nakikita nila yun? Pag kumakain kayo, nasa gadgets ba kayo,” she asks. Maricel encourages parents to reflect on how often they check or use their phones during meals. When parents are constantly on their devices–even through mealtimes, they inadvertently teach their children that such moments are less important than they truly are.
The “iPad solution” in public spaces
Maricel acknowledges the reality that these days, many parents rely on gadgets to keep their children in check and entertained in public spaces. Although she understands the temptation, she cautions against overusing this strategy. “Pag nasa restaurant ba kayo, ilalagay niyo ba kaagad yung iPad para manahimik sila?” While gadgets may offer a temporary fix, she reminds parents that such a habit may prevent the development of meaningful interactions and even deeper relationships with their children.
It starts with parents
Ultimately, Maricel’s message is clear: the responsibility of fostering a healthy relationship with gadgets and promoting strong family bonds starts with parents. “Tayo yung nagti-training sa kanila para hindi magkaroon ng magandang relationship,” she says, stressing that parents have the power to influence their children’s behavior by setting clear boundaries and modeling healthier habits.
When parents are more mindful of their own gadget use and prioritize gadget-free time with their children, they can better establish a foundation for deeper, more meaningful connections, and healthier personal habits. Maricel reminds us that while we can’t completely shield our families from technology, it should never come at the cost of family relationships.
Read here for a new parent’s guide to raising “digital natives.”
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