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Realization Ng Isang Ina: 'Our Imperfections Don't Make Us Bad Moms'

Realization Ng Isang Ina: 'Our Imperfections Don't Make Us Bad Moms'

PHOTO BY courtesy of Cham Secretario

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PHOTO BY Cham Secretario

This may not be the most pleasant photo, but, I just wanna share my thoughts.

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This is my 2-year-old daughter, who I found playing alone on the floor, while I was doing the dishes and cooking our dinner.

I heard her say "Mama, let's play!" at least four times. I told her, "Sure baby, just wait for Mama, okay?"

I wasn't aware how much time passed because I was preoccupied with chores.

There was silence in the living room so I checked immediately and this is what I found. I took a picture, turned off the stove, left the dirty dishes in the sink, and played with my daughter.

I know it's 'mababaw,' but it broke my heart a little when I saw her like this. It's like she was disappointed. She must have felt rejected.

I know how others always say "Sleep when your kid sleeps." They say, "Makipaglaro ka habang bata pa siya. Mami-miss mo 'yan."

But there are times like this when you have to face the reality that there is more to parenting than just sleeping and playing with your baby.

I am a stay-at-home mom and my partner is a frontliner. Most days, it's just me and my kid at home. Don't get me wrong. Of couse, this doesn't happen every day.

My mom and sisters visit us sometimes and they help me a lot. I also have a very supportive partner. But there are days when your mind is so overloaded that you just can't multitask.

I just want to prepare a homecooked meal, but my daughter wants to play with me. What did I do? Fast food delivery!

This is what I'm saying: Nobody's perfect. We may not always feed our kids the healthiest, most organic, preservative-free food, but we always try our best. Bad days make us feel guilty, yes.

But our imperfections don't make us bad moms.

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