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  • 'My Greatest Fear Is My Children Not Feeling Close To Me Because I Was Physically Absent'

    This dad comes from a family of overseas Filipino workers.
    by Grace Bautista .
'My Greatest Fear Is My Children Not Feeling Close To Me Because I Was Physically Absent'
  • Last March 2021, we asked our readers to submit their answers to this question: “How did Smart Parenting help you on your parenting journey?”

    We’ve chosen the 10 finalists from all over the country. But YOU get to decide who goes home with P100,000 by voting for the story that touched you the most (scroll below to vote!).

    Click here to see who got the most votes from Smart Parenting readers!

    One of the #MySmartParentingStory finalists is JC Lasam, a young new dad from Cagayan Valley. He was a seafarer by profession but decided to study Dentistry to be present for his family.

    We asked how JC and his wife came to agree about him shifting careers. “I come from a family of OFWs. Both my mother and father worked abroad.

    “I never knew the feeling of having my parents come up onstage to pin my ribbons and hang my medals. When I was sick and down, I didn’t have them around to comfort me, and they were not present on any of my birthdays.

    “The fact that I still remember these until today brings me sadness. I do not want my future children to experience the same. My greatest fear is my children not feeling close to me because of being a physically absent father.

    JC’s Smart Parenting story is his commitment to be a present father.

    I was a sailor by profession for the last seven years of my life before I shifted to a new career — being a Dentistry student. It was not easy on my part because I am a father as well to my little cutie patootie Juancho Uno.


    Since we found out that Joel, my wife, was pregnant, we arranged everything and put all things and every decision in place, so we were well prepared before our Juancho’s coming. But honestly, this was not easy.

    We needed guidance on what to do while my wife was pregnant, researched what to eat and what to drink, how many hours a pregnant lady needs to sleep or nap, all the medicines and exercises my wife should take, and even sleeping positions.

    As a husband and soon-to-be dad, I also wanted to learn what I must do to lessen the stress and make my wife happy and healthy because I believe a happy mommy means a healthy and happy baby.

    "Taking care of a newborn is not all rainbows and butterflies. They puke, they don’t burp when you want them to, they don’t stop crying when you tell them as well."
    PHOTO BY courtesy of JC Lasam
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    I found the answers to all of these questions on the website and Facebook page of Smart Parenting. From the moment I found Smart Parenting, I felt at ease, knowledgeable, and prepared because of its science-based explanations and advice.

    At this age, I have committed myself to family and Dentistry. It is not easy juggling these two, especially as a first-time father. Now that Juancho is already in the outside world together with my wife and me, I need to be stronger, healthier, and mightier.

    I left my seven-year career as a seafarer to commit to becoming a father to stay physically present with my family. It is a big decision, but I give my 100% dedication to this.

    Love JC’s story? Click his name below to vote, so he brings home P100,000!

    Want to read the other finalists' stories before voting? You can find all 10 entries here! Voting is until May 15.

    While you can vote multiple times using this poll, the results you see do not reflect the actual validated numbers. Did you vote 10 times for one candidate? That will only be considered as 1 vote. So we highly encourage you to vote once and ask your friends to cast their votes as well.

    Click your pick among the finalists to vote!

    Judy of Quezon City

    The Mom Who Is Overcoming Postpartum Struggles

    Jashmine of Laguna

    The Mom Who Fought APAS

    Julius of Mandaluyong City

    The Hands-On Working Dad

    Karen of Isabela

    The Mom-Care Advocate

    Ena of Davao

    The Mental Wellness Advocate

    Genina of Marikina City

    Single Mom By Choice

    JC of Cagayan Valley

    The Student Dad

    Maryjade of Quezon Province

    The Mom Who Worked 8 Jobs

    Melody of North Cotabato

    The Mom Of A Child With Special Needs 

    Alfie of Pangasinan

    The Stay-At-Home Dad

    The final winner will be based on the number of unique votes at the end of the voting period. Here's where the voting is so far according to unique votes.

    As one of our 10 finalists, JC will receive:

    • An ible Airvida Wearable Air Purifier worth P8,795
    • P2,000 worth of gift certificates
    • A chance to win P100,000, tax-free, of course!

    Submitted entries are edited only for spelling, punctuation, grammar, and formatting.

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