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These Powerful Positive Phrases Can Help You Through Tantrums And Meltdowns
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    You might be wondering what proactive teaching is about and why it is an essential method of teaching and parenting.

    Proactive teaching is how a teacher deals positively with a situation. It's an approach where a teacher finds a solution instead of reacting to the situation.

    In my first year of teaching, I found it so challenging to handle difficult situations, disruptive behaviors, and temper tantrums. Even when I became a parent, I noticed that my husband and I had these repetitive responses of "no" and "stop it!" to our child.

    It was so exhausting to be filled with so much frustration. Our children can also feel when we were stressed out. There were times I found myself having strong emotional reactions whenever my child or student fail to make good choices.

    Do you sometimes feel you want to yell, scream, or walk out when you are facing a challenging situation with your student or child?

    You are not alone, probably most of us feel the same way. That's why I'm here to share my best practices.

    I learned proactive teaching strategies from other brilliant educators during my classroom-based teaching career and in graduate school.

    Over the yeas of practice, these are the phrases that I utilize as my powerful tool to connect positively with my students and children.


    Here are the positive phrases you may try whenever...

    You're child is playing during the class...

    • "You can play after the class."
    • "Toys and gadgets are available after school activities."
    • "Focus, please."

    You're child is having a challenging time with homework, activities, and tasks...

    • "I understand your frustration, I'm here for you."
    • "We can do this together."
    • "Let's try to solve it."
    • "Let's find an alternative way to figure it out."
    • "Do you think of a different solution?"
    • "Which part do you think you need my help?"
    • "Nice try, let's see if the answers are correct."
    • "I love your enthusiasm in learning this, let's try another way to solve it."

    You're child needs assistance in courtesy and politeness...

    • "Let's practice being polite."
    • "Ask your friend politely."
    • "Let's use gentle voices."
    • "Let's use kind words, please."
    • "Please wait for your turn."
    • "No, thank you."

    You're child is upset or frustrated...

    • "Are you sad? Do you want a hug?"
    • "Let's take ten deep breaths, I will do it with you."
    • "Let's go for a walk."

    You're child is in a conflict with others...

    • "Personal space, please."
    • "Let's practice making good choices."
    • "Respect others as you want to be respected."
    • "We keep our hands to ourselves."
    • "Please ask permission first before you touch, use, or get it."

    Have you noticed that I used "let's" often in these phrases? Children feel more driven when they are a part of a team.

    Until now, I continue to learn. I also ask others about their best practices because I believe that's how we learn from each other. 

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    Remember that you can always tweak, modify, or come up with your positive phrases. Just sprinkle it with positivity and don't forget to smile. You can do it!


    This article originally appeared on the blog www.zsamazinglife.com. Some edits were made by the SmartParenting.com.ph editors.

    Zsa Zsa Aranas is the founder of the Zsamazing Life blog where she shares her journey about parenting, teaching styles, and self-love. She recently launched her first e-journal that empowers self-love and self-worth. She's a former preschool teacher and college instructor who explored mompreneurship, too. She's currently teaching English as a second language. Zsa Zsa enjoys baking and going on nature walks with her family during weekends. 

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