Sometimes it can be difficult to understand your teens. One minute they're open and talkative, the next they're up in their room, focusing on their gadgets.
It's hard to know how and when to talk to them. And it can also be challenging to ask them to do something.
There are, however, a few things to know about raising teenagers that can help you understand them better.
Things that can help you raise teenagers
Watch what you say and do
Your teens are actually watching and listening to everything you do. If you often say bad words, they're more likely to pick that up.
If you're not kind, they won't be either. You are their role model after all—they just don't say it out loud.
Don't be a hypocrite
Practice what you preach. Don't say one thing and do another. Don't make rules that apply only to your children and not the adults in the house.
Listen without judgment
Teens don't always open up. In fact, it's one of those rare moments that you'll truly cherish when they happen.
When your child opens up to you about anything, make sure you are paying attention. Listen intently so they know they can count on you to hear them out. They don't want you on your phone as much as you don't want them on their computer all the time.
Accept that they will not like you all the time
They won't always understand your choices. You won't be able to see eye-to-eye, too—at least for now. Try not to expect that they will like you all the time because they won't.
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Allow them to make mistakes
Your teens are learning every day. They are, after all, trying and starting to be adults. Remember how hard it was for you when you were their age. Don't try to predict what will happen to them. It can be tempting, but try to let them discover things on their own.
Believe in their abilities
They are more capable than you think. They'll always be your babies and it can be hard to see that they're all grown up now, but you have to give them the space to become the people they're meant to be.
It's hard to watch them to become adults right before your eyes, but it can also be an amazing thing to see. Give them enough space to explore along with enough reassurance that you will always be there for them no matter what.
Don't be too hard on yourself and on your teens. This part of raising them can be hard, but you will get through adolescence together.