We cannot change that fact that having a baby changes -- no, overhauls -- a woman's body. And as much as we'd like to think we can accept that our bodies will never be the way it was like before pre-baby, we find ourselves not quite prepared for it. So, yes, the weight can still get to us sometimes.
Laura Mazza of Sydney, Australia, the writer behind the blog Mum on the Run, shared an honest conversation between her and her husband about her postpartum body during one of those off days. The mom of two wasn't the first to talk about how women struggle with a post-pregnancy body, but what's inspiring was what her husband told her.
On Laura's Facebook post, she wrote that her husband fell in love with a toned body, devoid of stretch marks on the belly or breasts, and can fit into tight jeans. It wasn't fair that her husband's body remained the same while her body "changed in every way," she said.
"This isn't the body you fell in love with," Laura told her husband.
"You're right. It isn't the body I fell in love with," her husband replied. "Instead it's a body that grew our children, it fed our children, it comforted our children, it made life. Your body is the one I fall in love with every day. I didn't know what love was until I saw this body and found out all it could do, so thank you," he added.
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Did your heart just melt? Ours sure did. It's everything a mom who has just given birth needs to hear when she's exhausted, emotional and probably missing her old self. It's also one of the reasons why Laura's post has been shared for more than 50,700 times, with many moms tagging their husband in the comments (almost 8,000!) and some dads affirming their wives.
Laura ended her post on a positive note. "Do not be ashamed of what you have, or what your mom body looks like... enjoy the moments you have, and enjoy the fact that you have made something that is worth every stretch mark and every dimple," she wrote. "If you needed a reminder, this is it, this body you have now, it’s worth every bit of love and more," Laura added.
Certainly, Laura isn't alone, both in her sentiments about her postpartum body and in having a husband who understands, supports and gives reassurances. "A lot of women know… that even though they are worried about snapping back (to their pre-pregnant self), their husbands are in awe of the body that created life," she told Babble. It just needs to be said out loud once in a while.
For the record, Laura is all for body positivity. "But if I say I didn’t miss my old body, I’d be lying," she said. It should serve as a reminder for both moms and dads. We just need affirmation sometimes to give our self-esteem a needed boost, which is a big help when you have the most demanding job in the world: raising kids.