A Family Man For 25 Years, Ian Veneracion Says 'There's Nothing Cool' About WomanizingIan and his wife Pam have 3 children.by Jocelyn Valle .
"Best decision of my life" is how Ian Veneracion, 47, describes settling down at age 22. The actor-musician adds that he feels the same way "up to this day," 25 years since becoming husband to Pam Gallardo, who's not from showbiz.
"Sobrang sigurado ako," Ian tells Karen Davila in the broadcast journalist's vlog. "I made a promise to her no’ng kinasal kami and a promise to society. But more than that, I made a promise to myself, which for me, is the most important thing. I promised to take care of this person for the rest of my life."
Ian respects his wife's privacy, so there's no trace of Pam in his Instagram, except for their three children: Draco, Dids, and Duccio.
(In a previous article, Dids got a precious piece of advice from her dad,
Ian Veneracion To Daughter On Being A Lesbian: 'Don't Ever Be Apologetic About It')
Ian says of his other half, who's an engineer running her own firm: "She doesn’t like attention. Hindi naman s’ya mahilig sa selfie, wala siya sa social media. That’s one thing I also like about her."
He adds, teasing, "Kahit attention ko nga, di ko alam…'Uy, pansinin mo naman ako! Sing and dance na ako dito. Mind me, mind me!’"
How Ian met his match
Ian recalls he was 18 when he first heard of Pam. He was already a TV and movie star at the time, having started acting at age 7 in a sitcom with Joey de Leon.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
One day, he was aimlessly checking out some calling cards in a shoebox, presumably owned by a friend with him at that moment.
"’Tapos the arrogant me," he says, grinning at the memory, "Hmm, sino kaya ang puwedeng tawagan. Sabi ko sa friend ko, ‘Sino ’to?’ Sabi ng friend ko, ‘Wag ’yan, masungit ’yan.’" That friend was referring to Pam.
He goes on sharing the rest of the story: "Ako naman, na-challenge. Tinawagan ko, sa landline...Tutal single naman ako, eh di hanap ka ng date…"
Then the phone rang, and Pam spoke on the other line. She asked, "Sino ’to?" He said "Ian," and added to emphasize his name recall, "Veneracion."
He now explains, "Akala ko macha-charm ko s’ya, eh...Ang sabi n’ya lang, ‘Marami akong ginagawa.’ Blag! ‘Loko ’to, ha!’ So na-challenge ako...Sabi ko, di puwede ’yun." He lets out a hearty laugh: "Eto, tatlo na ang anak namin."
Looking back, Ian confesses, "At that time, I couldn’t imagine myself waking up in the morning or going to bed every night with the same person. Sabi ko, ‘No way!' Pero na-realize ko rin na, ‘No, I can’t imagine myself without this person.' So ’yun, that’s when I knew she’s the one for me."
As a husband and father
Ian admits he entrusts all his earnings to Pam. He explains, "Sa akin, mas magaling na manager ang babae, mas organized, mas matyagang magkuwenta." Thus he just tells his wife this standard line: "Basta eto ang kinita ko!"CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
He also owns up to being "kunsintidor" and labels his wife as "istrikta." He gives a few reasons why: "So minsan, skateboard sa bahay, ’yung mga bawal pag wala ang wife ko. Pag narinig ko ang kotse, ‘Go, go, fix, fix…’ Para pag dating, walang kalat."
Ian says this is how Pam reacts when he brings their kids to his motorcycling, paragliding, and other sporty adventures, and tells his wife he'll bring their kids: "Isasama mo ang mga bata? Ikaw ang bahala pag may nangyari sa mga anak ko…"
When asked in Karen's vlog the key to being a good husband, Ian turns playful even more. He quips, "Di ko sure ’yung sa pagiging mabuting asawa. Dapat tanungin mo ang asawa ko."
He soon changes tune as the topic shifts to fatherhood: "Pero sa pagiging ama, I think among all the roles I’ve played, that’s my most favorite. That’s what I’m most proud of.
"Nang ipanganak ako, mag-isa lang ako. Pero nag-contribute ako ng tatlong compassionate, kind, intelligent human beings that can help other human beings. ’Yun ang proud ako."
He admits to indulging his kids' luho: "Oo, pag hiningan ka, lalo na ang daughter ko. Alam ng mga tatay na close sa mga anak na babae. Hawak nila ang switch sa puso mo. Isang smile lang nila, ang saya mo na. Pero pag sinimangutan ka, depressed ka."
He goes on describing his family members: "Draco is like my brain. Because before he came, I was the center of the universe. I was this and that. Then he came along, I had to be organized and make plans.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
"Dids is my heart. ’Yun nga, she’s got my emotions. Si Duccio is my lungs. He makes me want to live longer and do more things and make sure I do more activities with him.
"And Pam, my wife, is the skin that holds me together. She’s my biggest organ. That’s how I see it. I really can’t see myself as an individual apart from my family. Ha, ako lang? Wala ang family ko? Di ko kaya."
Thus his advice to his kids, particularly his two sons: "Madaling mambabae, kahit sino puwedeng mambabae. There’s nothing cool about it. Pero ’yung sticking to the one you know that’s meant for you, that’s the right path. It takes more of a man to be like that."
Read here why Ian's wife is confident that the actor has no mistress.
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