Aljur Abrenica Wants To Be A Good Model To His Sons, To Be Better 'So They Can Look Up To Me'

Almost two years after their separation, Aljur Abrenica admitted the reason why his marriage with Kylie Padilla ended. Toni Gonzaga asked Aljur in her Youtube talk show Toni Talks, “The reason why your marriage fell apart is because ikaw ang may kasalanan, you cheated. Anong masasabi mo?”

To which he answered directly, “Yeah. Totoo naman. Totoo yun. On my part, inaadmit ko yun, may pagkakamali ako.”

Aljur added, “The biggest mistake ko is, hindi ako nagkaron ng time sa kanila. Nagkaron ako ng takot to provide. Nawalan ako ng oras.”

The conversation between Toni and Aljur started with their recalling of the first time they met on a set, and both remembered that they were just new parents then. “Tanda ko kasi nun, sobrang kinakabahan ako as bagong tatay, kaya kahit sinong pwede kong makausap as a parent, kinakausap ko. Kaya yun ang pinag-usapan natin,” Aljur recalled.

He later shared, “Mahirap yung dinaanan ko (sa marriage ko), kasi binuo ko yun eh. Nangarap ako, bilang isang lalaki, binuo ko yun. Tapos nawala. Nung mga time na yun, nung binabatikos na ko, nag-isip ako what’s the most important thing to do right now. Iniisip ko anong importante. It is to spend my time with my kids, how can I be a good father to them.”

Toni asked, “When you look at your kids, minsan ba naisip mo na you feel sorry kasi you weren’t able to give them a complete family?”

Aljur answered, “Yeah. Kasi it’s every kid’s dream na buo yung pamilya.” He added, “I’m privileged enough to have kids, kasi yung mga bata, they teach you to be a better man. Nag-change talaga ang buhay ko nung nagkaron ako ng anak eh.”

“Pano ka nila nabago?,” Toni asked.

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“Simple, nagkaron ka ng sigla ulit. Setting ng priorities. Gives you direction and a deeper purpose in life. Especially faith,” Aljur shared. 

He also recalled one moment when his 5 year old son, Alas, taught him how to be grateful to god for the simple things. One time, they were praying and Aljur asked him what he wants, “Anak anong gusto mo?”

To his surprise, Alas answered, “Papa, gusto ko love ko si God. Kasi Papa, Siya yung gumawa ng beach, ng bahay, ng dinosaur.” Aljur then realized that a child’s simple prayer is also teaching him to to be grateful for the simple things. 

About Kylie

“You still have that love for the mother of your kids?” Toni asked Aljur. He answered, “Oo, hindi na mawawala yun. Every now and then, you can love a person naman kasi from afar. Nanay siya ng mga anak ko, may pinagsamahan kami eh.”

He also shared the efforts he’s making for Kylie and their children, “There are other things that can make it work, like co-parenting. Watch over them. Make sure that I’m responsible, that I’m capable na makapagbigay ng sustento, and makapagbigay ng time for them. That’s my way of expressing love for them.”

“Isa sa mga pinaka- importante sa marriage is the preparation. Mentally, emotionally, lahat lahat. That time, I think I was prepared. But looking back now, hindi ako prepared,” Aljur said when Toni asked him what’s the hardest thing about marriage. 

Co-parenting

“After nung separation namin, yung effort to understand and compromise, and to really make a team. Mas okay kami as co-parent,” Aljur said. 

When Aljur admitted his relationship with AJ Raval last Valentine’s Day, Kylie even said, “No joke, I’m just really happy that everyone’s finding their happiness.”

He added, “You have to accept na hindi na din talaga magwowork (marriage), kasi ginawa ko na din naman lahat. Siya rin (Kylie), ginawa din naman niya lahat. It’s mutual.”

About being a father

“Iniisip ko lagi, saan kami pupunta ng mga anak ko this weekend. Kasi I only have that time for them. Na minsan, hindi ko pa nabibigay dahil may trabaho pa. I put my energy there,” he shared. 

'Ang Daddy nila hindi perpektong tao, nagkakamali. Pero gusto kong malaman nila na every moment of my life, I’ll always give my 100% for them. Na kahit mali yung mga naging desisyon, I did my best.'

Toni asked, “Pano pag malaki na ang mga anak mo, mapapanood nila tong mga videos. Anong gusto mong malaman nila?”

Aljur said, “Ang Daddy nila hindi perpektong tao, nagkakamali. Pero gusto kong malaman nila na every moment of my life, I’ll always give my 100% for them. Na kahit mali yung mga naging desisyon, I did my best.”

He added, “I want to be the best version of myself, so they can look up to me. To be the best example ng isang tatay, kasi lalaki sila.”