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  • 'Hindi Mo Kasalanan, I'm Sorry': An Angry Mom's Letter To Her Kids

    I wish I could tell you na yung galit ko ay hindi talaga dahil sa 'yo. Pero sa 'yo ko nailabas.
    by Ronna Capili Bonifacio .
'Hindi Mo Kasalanan, I'm Sorry': An Angry Mom's Letter To Her Kids
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    “Hi SPV, no to bashing po.”

    This opening sentence is common in many Smart Parenting Village posts where anonymous members have confessed and asked for help with how to control their anger. 

    We’ve all been there as parents–we try hard not to raise our voice, not to say anything that will hurt our kids and yet there are moments when we just can’t seem to control our temper.

    An anonymous mom and member of Smart Parenting Village shared with us a letter she wrote to her kids. This letter expresses what she wishes she could explain to her kids every time she gets too angry

    “I wish I could tell you hindi mo kasalanan na hirap ako magcontrol ng sarili ko,” she writes. Anonymous mom goes through the scenarios parents know all too well: when the pressure is too much, it can be so hard not to get angry

    Read her honest letter to her kids below and remind yourself: you’re not alone in this journey of being a better parent for our kids.

    I'm sorry, it's not your fault

    To My Kids, 

    I couldn't start this letter for a long time because writing it would just bring back all the moments I am too ashamed to admit. 


    What I wish I could really tell you when I'm shouting is… it's not your fault. And I'm sorry I keep shouting at you. 

    I wish I could explain that when I feel so pressured kasi sabay-sabay lahat, hindi ko sinasadya maging monster. 

    I wish I could take back the things I said. 

    I wish I never did the things I did.

    Minsan pag nakikita kong nagagalit ka, alam ko dahil sa akin yun at nakikita mo sa akin yun.

    I pray you don't remember it when you grow up

    I wish I could snatch it from your memory—lahat ng masasakit na salita. Your memory of me throwing things. I’ve been praying na hindi mo nalang sana maalala sa pag tanda. 

    I wish I could tell you that I always try to be calm and patient. Minsan, hindi ko lang talaga nagagawa. Tao lang din is Mama.

    I wish I could tell you hindi mo kasalanan na hirap ako magcontrol ng sarili ko. 

    I wish I could be better so that you don't have to get hurt just because I'm dealing with many things. 

    I wish I could explain to you na ang hirap baguhin ng nakasanayan ko. Kaya hiyang-hiya ako. At inis na inis ako sa sarili ko.

    I wish I could tell you that I love you. I don’t mean to be scary.

    Minsan ang hirap tanggapin ng pagmamahal mo sa akin kasi alam kong hindi ko deserve, lalo pagkatapos kong magalit

    Minsan hindi ko makita bakit mo ako love, kasi ako mismo hindi ko mapatawad ang sarili ko kung paano kita napagalitan at nasuway. 

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    I wish I could tell you pag galit ako na kahit mahirap maging nanay, hindi kita kailanman ipagpapalit sa kahit ano. 

    It's not fair to you, and I'm trying

    I wish I could tell you na yung galit ko ay hindi talaga dahil sa 'yo. Pero sa 'yo ko nailabas. 

    I'm sorry, anak, kasi hindi ako nakapag pigil. 

    I'm sorry that I do not know how to control my anger. It's not fair for you to get hurt. 

    I wish I could tell you I'm learning to do better. I'm trying. Pero ikaw lang ang makakapag-sabi if I am doing better.

    Your forgiveness is what inspires me to keep trying again. Pag nakikipaglaro ka sa akin na parang wala lang nangyari kahit kanina lang, ang sama sama ko.

    Maybe tomorrow, I’ll be better. Because you deserve better.

    I may fail again, but I will never stop trying to be a better parent for you.


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