May Bawal Ba Suotin Pag Nanay Ka Na? Beauty Gonzalez Proves That Motherhood Is Not A HindranceThe actress credits her husband who pushes her to pose her sexy photos on Instagram
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Are a woman’s style choices instantly limited when she becomes a mother? For Beauty Gonzalez, actress and mom, the case isn’t so.
But it may come as surprise to some that it is Beauty’s husband Norman Crisologo who pushes her, always asking her to pose for pictures and post her photos on Instagram.
“Honestly, I am not confident, but when my husband asks me to pose, who am I to say no, di ba? Beauty says in PEP Headliner, PEP.ph's digital cover which recently resumed after a two year hiatus.
“[Yung iba, sasabihin] ‘Uy, bakit ka nagpu-post ng ganyan, tanda-tanda mo na. You have to be respected. You have to wear something at your age.’
Beauty pertains to the expectation of mothers to dress or “look your age”. Anything too revealing or sexy is often deemed inappropriate once a woman becomes a mother.
“Siguro, nako-conscious ako because I was young, may mga camera na sa PBB and [being] the fat kid, iniisip ko lagi, ‘Sh*t, ang taba-taba ko.’ says Beauty.
The two even argue about Beauty’s photos, but in a different way than one might expect–he constantly bugs her to pose and revel in her, as her name suggests, beauty.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“…every time he asks me to pose, nag-aaway pa kami. Hahaha! Actually, thankful ako sa kanya kasi he’s very matiyaga sa Instagram.
Beauty says Norman reminds her that she is beautiful and her posts are not lewd.
“…maganda ka you should let people see it and your post naman on Instagram, you’re posting na hindi bastos. So don’t feel bad. Kasi yung pose mo classy, e,’ she tells PEP.ph.
The actress is currently headlining The Fake Life which will air on GMA Afternoon Prime starting June 6.
“He really makes me understand kasi napakakonserbatibo ko, takot ako mag-pose ng mga ganun but he really pushes the boundaries, for me kasi yung ibang asawa, bawal ka na magga-ganyan-ganyan.
Breaking the mommy mold
Beauty remembers the notion, especially for celebrity mothers, becoming a mother means nothing sexy.
“Porke’t may mga anak ka na, you cannot post anything sexy? Parang it’s totally different in the States, e.
“It’s how you look, it’s how you deliver yourself. It’s not what your status is or if you are happily married and you have a kid.
Perhaps it can also be applied for moms who do not work in front of the camera or even moms who simply want to enjoy style. Motherhood does not need to limit your choices.CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
“I really want to break that wall kasi naiirita ako sometimes na hindi ka naku-consider sa role kasi ganon ang nangyari sa iyo.
“I don’t like that kasi dapat titignan mo yung talent ng tao at saka work ethics niya,” says Beauty.
How husbands can support new moms
Norman also played a major role in Beauty’s transition to motherhood. After undergoing a caesarian section delivery to give birth to their daughter Olivia, she experienced postpartum depression plus the challenges of breastfeeding and recovery from surgery.
“Siyempre, I have to give breastfeeding kasi importante yung first milk mo, ‘tapos caesarian pa ako.
“Sabi ko, ‘Pisti, giatay, sakit na yung tahi, sakit pa boobs ko!’ she tells PEP.ph.
Her husband gave her the courage to do motherhood her way. “So sabi ng asawa ko, ‘O, tama na iyan. One month na.’ So, I really appreciate my husband kasi hindi niya ako jinudge.
She adds, “He makes things easier for me, he doesn’t judge me. He really wants me to look good all the time, he doesn’t mind me working out para magpapayat.”
Beauty says she returned to work when their daughter Olivia was just seven months old, and she hasn’t stopped working since.
‘Hindi naman ako yung supermom’
The actress also revealed that she’s already making plans for the future, and that might mean being able to focus on Olivia especially when she’s a teenager, a promise she made to her.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“My daughter is turning ten in five years, so I want to be there when she’s a teenager, I don’t want na wala ako.
Now that Beauty does lock-in tapings to be able to work, she makes it a point to spend time with her daughter every time she wraps up taping.
“… every time pagkatapos ng show, lagi kaming nasa beach, lagi kaming nasa abroad, kasi yun lang yung bonding time, e.
The Crisologos have also taken their daughter Olivia abroad, and Beauty says they do it on their own, no yayas.
“When I go abroad, wala akong yaya, I’m so excited to fly going there but [after], I’m so excited to come home and give her back to the yaya! Hahaha! Honestly.
“I don’t want to be plastic, hindi naman ako yung supermom na ano, but yun yung bonding moment naming dalawa.”
We love that Beauty is always keeping it real, whether as a woman, at work, and even in her motherhood. Here’s to more moms who are able to brush off others’ opinions and comments!
What you can do when you start to feel the pressure of motherhood
When you feel like the pressure of motherhood is getting to you, here are a few things you can remember:
1. No judgment starts with us.
If we don’t want to be judged, let it start with ourselves. Let’s not judge others, mothers or not.
Ask yourself, do I really know the whole picture? Am I making assumptions?ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
2. Stop labeling yourself.
Good mom, bad mom. These four words often dominate our minds, but getting rid of the label ‘bad mom’ can help you enjoy your motherhood and child even more.
Should you make a mistake, take deep breaths, and then remind yourself you’re doing fine. Try to resist calling yourself a bad mother and repeat to yourself that you’re a good mom.
These words can also extend to your children–if we don’t want to label our kids ‘good’ and ‘bad’, then we can do the same for ourselves.
3. Reach out to a friend.
Send a message, call, or video call your closest friend for a breather.
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