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Only One Hour On Weekdays, Unlimited On Weekends: Cheska And Doug's Cellphone Rules For Their Kids
  • One of the Internet’s most-loved families, with kids who grew up alongside the Internet boom, have rules for gadget use.


    Doug and Cheska Kramer shared in a recent online event, how they manage their kids’ mobile phone use. 

    “If it’s important you’ll make time, for us we have to make time, whatever engagements they have from sports, to school, to gadget time. Everything, we’re really involved, says Doug.

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    Many parents recognize that gadget use and safety is a major concern but often don’t know where to start. For Doug and Cheska, it seems that digital devices is not a separate category in their parenting. It falls under being an involved parent.

    He also gave a few practical tips of course. “Best advice, check their phones, talk to them about it, engage with them.”

    Weekday rules: one hour only

    “Check boundaries also, says Cheska. The mom of three shared that their eldest daughter Kendra, who just entered the teen years last month, has new ground rules for her mobile phone usage.


    “Weekdays, she has to surrender her phone to me. So I hold her phone. By 6 PM every day, she is allowed to look at her phone for one hour to reply to messages of her friends, says Cheska.

    She adds with a soft giggle, “Because friends are important to, you know.


    "Come Friday, when she’s done with all her obligations with school, I give back her phone for her to enjoy. Cheska says that Kendra also spends a portion of her weekends reviewing for some of her classes.

    “And then on Saturdays, she reviews for some of her subjects. She puts her phone aside and does what she has to do, Cheska says.

    How to guide kids on phone and Internet usage

    Cheska says, “But during the weekends, I don’t meddle with her phone. And she already knows that because we always talk about these things. 

    “I trust my daughter, because I know she won’t do anything to break our trust.

    Doug and Cheska both agree that A Parent’s Guide to Instagram, is a helpful tool for parents to be able to decide on their starting point for their family’s Internet and gadget rules. 

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    The two underscore how gadget rules come hand-in-hand with the rest of parenting. “We want to reiterate, that parents should really invest in their relationship with their children, says Cheska.

    “So that the children will invest also in their relationship with their parents, more than having to look for validation, looking for company elsewhere, may it be on social media, because they might not have somebody to talk to.

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    She adds, “So for me, invest in your relationship with your kids. Know the things that they’re interested in. Be involved. And show interest also in it. 

    Doug reminds parents to talk to their kids about how the Internet works and how it affects people’s thoughts and feelings. 

    Children may understand the Internet intuitively, but the science and the data behind it may fly past their heads, like how each like gives users a dopamine rush or the happy hormone.

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    Walk the talk

    “I think it’s very important to share to your children that they shouldn’t be so focused on the likes, the follows, the views. I feel like if you don’t tell them that, they might compare themselves to others? To bigger following? 

    He adds, “They might get validation from that and that might cause depression. So a lot of things can come into play."

    Cheska gives one more important reminder: Model what you want to see in your kids.

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    “Be examples to your children. Even through social media account, [parents] can also set that example. They say what you post, what you say is what you are about, she says, 


    This means what parents post, comment, and their frequency of phone usage is just as important as setting rules for kids.

    Doug says, “You can impose all these things to your children, but if you parents are uncontrollable in your screen time, you also look at your follows, your views, it just doesn’t make sense 'di ba, for your children to do something that you’re not doing.”

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