Moms Open Up About The Most Stressful Part Of Being A Parent

Being a parent is probably the most fulfilling role in the world, but it's arguably the most challenging task at the same time. From the arduous newborn days, disciplining your kids in their toddler and teenage stage, to being a trusty life coach in their adulthood, parenthood is a lifelong full-time job.

To say that parenting is no walk in the park is an understatement. Being a mother or a father (or in some cases, both) means you have to be available 24/7, be a master at multitasking and must have a bottomless pitcher of patience.

To shed light on this, we asked our online parenting community, 'Ano ang pinaka-stressful na part ng parenting para sa iyo?'

Soon enough, we got flooded by hundreds of brutally honest answers from our followers in the comment section. While we may not have the solution to manage these stressful situations, we are glad to be able to give moms a safe space to be open about their struggles. Sometimes, all we need is to let out our negative emotions to lessen the weight of our baggage, right?

"[D]apat talaga mayroon tayong matinding support system. Kahit 'yung mapagsasabihan lang ng stress at makikinig satin ay sobrang nakakagaan ng loob."

It also helps to feel validated and see that you are not alone in facing these parenting issues. Below we picked some of the answers that reflect the harsh reality of raising a child.

The most stressful part of being a parent

When kids get sick

"'Pag nagkakasakit. Yung away tsaka tantrums tolerable naman. I just hug them to console them. 'Pag mayskit kasi kahit makatulog hindi ko magawa." - Tashi A.

"Kapag may masakit sa baby ko, tapos we can only take care, pero hindi natin kayang kunin ang pain." - Nelsie S.

"'Pag may sakit. Alam mo 'yung nagdadasal ka na lang na ipasa sa'yo ang sakit na nararamdaman ng anak mo." - Ladyann G.

"Kapag may sakit siya tapos marami kang gagawin sa work mo at hindi mo sya ma-focus nang 100%. Na-stressed ako at nakokonsensya ako kapag ganun. Feeling ko nagkukulang ako bilang nanay." Ghel P.

"'Pag may sakit mga anak ko. At lalo na ngayon. Sobrang nakaka-stress magpalaki ng mga anak sa edad nila palaban na 11 and 13 years old." - Juvy D.

"'Pag nagkakasakit sila tapos may times na nagsabay pa. Masisi pa ako ni hubby at ng ibang tao kasi nagkulang ako napabayaan ko nakaka-stress 'di ba! Nakakaloka maging full time mom lahat sa'yo." - Cecile B.

"'Pag may sakit sila. Super stress talaga ko feeling ko ako din magkakasakit." - Mheanne R.

When kids reach toddler stage

"First three years of my children were the most challenging. Sobrang hirap kumilos, minsan kahit paghinga ang hirap. For us parents, specially mother dapat talaga mayroon tayong matinding support system. Kahit yung mapagsasabihan lang ng stress at makikinig satin ay sobrang nakakagaan ng loob." - Leonora T.

"During their toddler stage, 'yung naglilinis ka pa lang tapos may panibagong kalat na." - Kristienne C.

When kids become teenagers

"Being a mom of teenagers. Ang hirap, mas magaling pa sa magulang, sumasagot na, may ibang mga mundo, ML (Mobile Legends) world. Yung ikaw pa mag-adjust kung kailan mo sila pwede utusan." - Ling L.

"Teens. Especially kapag the time of the month so hormonal. Then accepting the fact na madami nang nakaka-influence sa kanila thru social media." - Mary M.

"'Yung paulit-ulit ka sa pagpapaalala, pagalitan at pagsabihanor kausapin (for the same reason/s) pero hindi nag-iimprove or walang nagbabago (for our Tween), sometimes nagiging worst pa pero we know na hindi kami dapat sumuko sa pagpapaalala because we know someday, magbubunga din yung mga ginagawa naming pagpapaalala." - May D.

When you need to discipline the kids

"Yung gusto mong disiplinahin anak mo na kailangan na talaga paluin kaya lang sa bandang huli ikaw ang nasasaktan." -Naume C.

"Instilling good morals and values. Setting yourself as good example. Minsan kasi di na rin naman tayo sure kung tama pa ba ang tinuturo at pinapakita natin sa kanila." - Mary Grace M.

"Disiplina po talaga kasi may mga nangingialam ng parenting mo minsan kamaganak mo pa." - Lalaine M.

When you are faced with a lot of pressure from work or from other people's expectations

"That the mother is fully accountable of unwanted situations yet not credited with all that's good." - Kriselle L.

"Mas nakakastress yung part na pakikisama and super daming say na relatives." - Danielle S.

"Challenging maging parents pero mas maging challenging pano maging good parents." - Leonora T.

'"Yung comments ng iba and input nila sa attitude ng anak mo. Magugulat ka na lang na may panget na ugali na anak mo kasi na-adapt sa nagbabantay." - Mitchina D.

"Managing time. Common ito sa working parents na walang household help. Hirap magka-time na kayong dalawa lang mag-asawa. Hirap umalis nang di kasama mga bata, hirap ma-late ng uwe kasi for sure maaapektuhan schedule ng isa." - Rayche S.

When you are a solo parent

"Dalawa kayo pero isa lang ang nagpapakaparent." - Jih B.

"'Yung mag-isa mo lahat ginagawa. Pag-aalaga, pagligo, pagpapakain, pagpapatulog at module. Isama mo pa ang walang katapusang gawain sa loob ng bahay. Super nakaka-stress lahat 'yan para sakin and idagdag mo pa MAG-ISA lang ako sa lahat ng 'yan. Mom of three but still kicking! Kinakaya pa lahat as long as nakikita kong maayos ang mga baby ko." - Joy M.

"'Yung maging isang nanay at gawin at the same time yung ibang obligasyon ng pagiging isang tatay para sa anak ko. Para sa isang baby ang hirap lalo na nung mga panahon na 2 months palang siya halos puyat ka lagi." - Leonaleen G.

In another #SPTanongLang, we asked moms how to achieve work-life balance. Click here to read their answers.