Solenn Vacations In Paris Alone: We Believe Her When She Says A Solo Trip Is No Reason To Feel Guilty

What me-time guilt? Looks like Solenn doesn’t know what that means!

Solenn Heussaff recently arrived back in Manila after over two weeks in Paris where she too, flew solo. Husband Nico Bolzico and their eldest daughter Tili recently took a month-long vacation in Argentina.

“Thank you Paris! Needed this solo time (don’t feel guilty when you do), writes Solenn in a recent Instagram caption of her post capping off her solo vacation.

While most parents, especially moms, will feel guilt over carving out a few hours in the day just for themselves, Solenn says a solo trip is nothing to feel guilty over and we can’t help but agree while we try to convince ourselves too.

Say it with us: It’s okay that I need a break. It’s okay that I need a break.

Solenn also wrote, “Been 8 days of decluttering/rearranging life in Manila, 16 days of 15km walks a day and 3 full meals with dessert, proper catch up with friends, chilling with mum and more.

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The expectant mom spent time with her side of the family, hung out with friends, and took self-care seriously with the details she shared about her eating habits and daily cardio. 

“Also been 1 month since I have seen the 2 loves of my life but happy they created amazing memories together and Tili got to know her Argentine side.

Of course she missed her husband and daughter while their family vacationed in different places but as Solenn shows us, it’s okay to be apart too. It should not equate to bad parenting or an unhappy childhood for the kids—maybe even the opposite. 

Because for the Bolzicos, everyone was winning: Tili got to bond with her family in Argentina and learned more about her ‘Argentine side’, Nico returned home to his extended family and got precious one-on-one time with his daughter, and Solenn also returned to her French roots and got a well-deserved break before she gears up to officially become a mom of two.

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“Time to head back home and prepare for this new chapter with 2 bubbas!! Thank you life,” Solenn ends her Instagram post.

Looks like the Bolzicos are also making it a memorable last few months of Tili’s only-child status with this big trip she enjoyed with her dad!

Remember these next time you feel guilt over your me-time

1. Time spent together is not directly correlated to the quality of your relationship.

Mom guilt is real, especially the guilt over wanting to be present all the time for fear that it would make us a ‘bad parent’ if we missed things.

'We’re confusing the amount of time we spend with our kids with the quality of our parenting.

But as Samantha Ettus, best-selling author of The Pie Life: A Guilt-Free Recipe For Successful and Satisfaction says to Parents.com, “We’re confusing the amount of time we spend with our kids with the quality of our parenting. The quality of your relationship with your child isn’t directly correlated to the time you spend with them.”

2. Taking care of yourself is not a luxury, it’s a necessity.

“The more we fill ourselves up, the more we have to give. And as moms, we have to give a lot,” says Kristy S. Rodriguez, pre- and postnatal wellness expert and advocate, author of Pure Nurture: A Holistic Guide to a Healthy Baby.

Self-care means different things to different people so find what you love and what fills your cup, whether that’s a monthly date with the girls or working out daily. 

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Ettus also says, “Having a happier, more patient mom is better for everyone.” And as Bonnie Gibbs Vengrow writes in Parents.com says, by doing things that make you happy, you are also modeling to your child that joy and fun are important things in life.

3. Start small.

No it doesn’t have to be a solo trip to Paris, but it’s the essence of what Solenn did that parents, mothers in particular, may want to follow. 

Maybe it’s 30 minutes at home when the baby is being cared for by your partner or another trusted adult while you sip your coffee, or 15 minutes of stretching and meditation in the morning before everyone wakes up. 

Small breaks count too. And eventually, you’ll be able to work yourself up to bigger or longer breaks from parenthood with less or no guilt at all.

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