'Hirap Po Talaga Pag Binata,' Claudine Shares Rare Photo With Santino, And Moms Of Teens Get Her

Claudine Barretto shared a rare photo of her and Santino, her son with her ex-husband Raymart Santiago.

The actress considers it a feat that her 15-year-old son allowed her to have a photo with him, "Wow! Finally, he agreed to have his picture taken with me."

She added, "I promised not to post this though."

Her followers were amused with how Santino has grown, but some were more concerned why she still posted the photo.

"If you promise not to post, then don't. Respect your child's request. This is important to him at this stage. Don't ruin the trust," one user said.

Claudine explained, "Okay lang po sa kanya. Alam niya na. Natawa lang po." She added, "Hirap po talaga pag binata."

Some users could relate to Claudine, saying they are also parents of teens. Celebrity mom Donna Cruz said, "Hala! Alam ko pakiramdam haha! Happy and proud mom lang naman diba? Maiintindihan din nila yan."
Claudine shared, "Grabe Dons hirap pag binata na ayaw magpa-video or picture. Kailangan i-bribe."

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Another user said, "I know the struggle clau.. my son too , it’s really hard to take a pic with him."

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Why do you need to ask your child before you post their photo

It's normal for teens to seek more privacy from their parents, according to Very Well Family. While it feels like a major change that parents have to deal with, rest assured that this would help them become more independent and self-sufficient in the long run. Being extremely secretive, though, is another story.

"Sharenting" is the term used when parents share news and photos of their kids on their social media. In 2019, when Hollywood actress Gwyneth Paltrow shared a photo of her and her daughter Apple on Instagram, she told her mom that she cannot post anything without her consent.

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While a lot of people say that Gwyneth has a right to post her child's photo online because she's her daughter, some also said that the actress should've respected her child's right to privacy.

Andrea Siibak, a media studies professor at the University of Tartu in Estonia suggests that parents should take their privacy concerns seriously.

She told BBC, "Just having a simple discussion that involves children on what kind of photos they like, and if it's ok to upload them, helps build a better parent-child relationship."

While "sharenting" would benefit the parents more than their kids, parents should be more mindful and careful of our posts because we are their models. 

Really? I should ask permission before I post my child's photo? But why?

Parenting website Scary Mommy meanwhile related this to setting boundaries. 

"Just as I wouldn’t dream of forcing my children to hug or kiss someone they really didn’t want to, I shouldn’t be forcing their digital body onto my smartphone and social media without their consent. By allowing my children the right to say “no” or “I don’t want to share that,” this will hopefully prepare them for the day they will have photo/video requests from friends, love interests, or even a creepy online weirdo. This will help ensure that they feel comfortable and safe online."

When we are the ones who respect our kids' privacy first and foremost, we are enabling them to recognize and respect other people's boundaries too. 

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