Depression is a real mental health condition that requires professional help. Yet, moms who have it are often met with criticism and disbelief by those who don't understand it. Postpartum depression (PPD) is dismissed as baby blues — something that will "pass in time." Even sadder, a lot of moms who experience it resort to downplaying their condition for fear of being judged or seen as weak.
Czarina Ledesma and Chal del Rosario, whom SmartParenting.com.phfirst met when we challenged them to do a fancy table spread with take-out food, are two of the most "hyper" moms you will ever meet with a brilliant and funny sense of humor. These women are multitasking masters. Czar is an events stylist while Chal runs a travel agency, but those are day jobs. Czar runs a homeschooling program while Chal is an improv artist, and they both have a lot of personal projects together that come to fruition after long chat sessions.
Nothing in their personality would make you think they've experienced depression, yet Czar did, and Chal went through prepartum depression, a condition that she discovered only after the experience. They remind us that depression can happen to anyone.
"No one really likes to be in that position. It's not something that people should shrug off," says Czar. "When it comes to depression, people tend to doubt you, [and act] as if you can solve it on your own," adds Chal.
The two say they and many PPD sufferers they know had to deal people who downplayed or made them feel embarrassed about their condition. They sat down with Smart Parenting to discuss common scenarios moms with PPD get treated to on a regular basis.
Instead of judgment, Czar and Chal stress that sometimes the most important thing is to understand what the problem is first, before trying to find ways to solve it. "Sometimes, it's just best to listen," Czar says.