This Preggy Mom Comes To Iya Villania's Defense Against Those Who Say, 'Para Kang Pusa, Ang Bilis Manganak'

"And then they were four," Drew Arellano posted on Instagram on June 5 their latest family photo with the newest member, baby Astro Phoenix.

His wife, Iya Villania, gave birth to their fourth child on Saturday, saying that it was her longest and most painful delivery.

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"Yes, guys, I believe this is the last," the host said.

Iya said she prayed to get through an unmedicated birth, and it was granted.

"I was at 6cm and giving up when I asked for the drugs when all of a sudden God flipped a switch and I delivered 30-40mins after! He knew the desires of my heart and He opened my cervix up before the drugs came," she said.

Iya then quoted a song, A Great Work by Brian Courtney Wilson, "He that has begun a great work in you, God is faithful to perform it."

'Astro is home'

On her Instagram stories, the strong mama has been posting updates in their home.

On Sunday, Baby Astro was welcomed home by his siblings.

Their eldest son, Primo, 5, said Astro is super cute, and he even did a quick 'vlog' update by showing Astro to the world.

Leon, 3, was caught by Iya singing a song to a sleepy Astro. "Babytime," he said.

Their only girl, Alana, whom they call Duday, was seen giving her baby brother a sticker.

'The Arellanos are doing well'

While the new mom of four survived another delivery with grace, amid congratulatory messages, there are still a lot of comments that seem to poke fun on the Arellano fam.

Among those who pointed out this toxic behavior on social media was Mommy Ena Olivarez-Dizon from Davao. 

She said, she feels sad reading comments on the news articles about Iya that says,

"Para kang pusa, ang bilis manganak."

"Parang umihi lang ah."

"Sige damihan niyo pa, next year ulit."

"Grabe matres ni Iya walang pahinga."

Ena, who is an educator and mompreneur, explained in a post on her Facebook page, Tidy Modern YNAy, "As a Mom, these aren't hilarious. These are offensive. It just shows how our current culture devalues the very essence of family and child-bearing." 

Her post received more than 63,000 reactions, and has already been shared 25,000 times.  

"The Arellanos are doing well with how they raise these kids. They're one of the few families who ministers godly values to them. How dare we question their choice to bear more kids na para bang may ambag tayo sa pagpapakain sa kanilang pamilya," she adds.

Mommy Ena is also a member of the Smart Parenting Mom Squad, and calls herself, The Mompowerment Advocate from Davao. She is currently 28 weeks pregnant with her second baby.

"We live in a society that hates kids. The most radical love and rebellion we can do in this age is have kids, love them, protect, and shepherd them," she said.

Whether a woman doesn't want to have kids or she wants to have a dozen, it's her choice.

In contrast, in September 2021, actress Heart Evangelista posted a tweet for those who are pressuring her to get pregnant.

“Stop telling me to get pregnant unless you really want to hurt me. Nobody knows the real struggle. Also may I add life is good. People I love are fine and everything else in between is ok so bonus nalang if I do conceive. Again it’s my body," she said.

There are also moms in the Smart Parenting Village, our Facebook group for parents, who shared that they feel bad whenever people ask them, "Kailan niyo balak sundan yung anak niyo?"

It's high time we become more mindful with our actions and words, online and offline. Moms, dads, everyone need a little kindness every day. It takes a bit of an effort to appreciate and send a positive note, but together, it creates a great impact.

To raise happy and healthy families, there's only one thing that we need to do: Let's lift each other up.

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