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‘Don’t Have Your Tummy Fixed’: Scarlett's Sweet Message For Cheska Is A Reminder To All Moms
  • Cheska Garcia-Kramer’s story time of her conversation with second-born Scarlett touched moms. On July 11, 2022, the mom of three shared that her daughter wanted to say something she’s never told her mom before in the middle of their afternoon swim.

    “S: Mommy, I have something to tell you that I have never told you before. Mommy, I don’t want you to have your tummy fixed. I like it that way.

    “M: Thank you, Scarlett! Even if my tummy is kulubot na?

    “S: Yes, mommy! It looks beautiful! Don’t have your tummy fixed because it’s a reminder we came from you.

    Cheska punctuates Scarlett’s last sentence with a crying emoji and a heart emoji. She goes on to add to her caption of their photo together, “Haay Scarlett you always know what to say.

    She adds, “Love that beautiful mind and heart of yours. You always see beyond everything.”


    The Kramers were recently in Boracay to celebrate dad Doug’s birthday. Beach time can be a moment of insecurity for moms who are conscious about how their bodies have changed through pregnancy and childbirth, often looking for beachwear options that are “forgiving” on the parts we don’t like.

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    But Scarlett’s words are a reminder for all mothers everywhere–a mother’s body is beautiful. And the parts we don’t love right now are the parts we can learn to embrace because it is a reminder, as Scarlett says, of becoming a mother.

    Whether or not your body has changed because of pregnancy and childbirth or it’s just the passing of time and a change in your weight or shape, how parents love their bodies contributes to a child’s appreciation and understanding of their own bodies.

    It might be as simple as, “I need to lose weight!” or “I look fat in this!”, but the reality is that a parent’s perceptions and words shape her child’s mindset. Here’s how you can help your child gain a positive body image.

    How to teach your kids to have a positive body image 

    1. Set a positive example of a healthy and balanced relationship with food. 

    Constantly saying "Kailangan ko na mag-diet" or "Ang takaw ko" may teach your child to look at food in a negative way. 

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    "Don’t equate food with positive or negative behavior, says National Eating Disorders Association. 
    It adds, "The dieting parent who says she was 'good' today because she didn’t “eat much” teaches that eating is bad, and that avoiding food is good. 

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    Another mistake parents can make according to NEDA is to be quick to say, "Don't eat that, it will make you fat. This teaches kids that fat is not likable. 

    2. Help children to love and appreciate their bodies by focusing on health, not weight.

    Remind children what are the things they are able to do with their body, like run, play, or hug their siblings. 
    Ask kids to list down all the things they are able to do with their bodies to foster their appreciation. Shift the focus from weight to health.

    Eat Right by the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics says, “Children shouldn’t be counting calories or restricting their intake. They should be enjoying regular meals and learning how to make smart, tasty snack choices.”

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    3. Do not comment on other people's bodies or appearance. 

    Avoid saying negative things about other people’s bodies, even if it is not related to weight. This also allows children to be more welcoming of different body types, skin color, hair color or type, and abilities.

    How parents speak about their own bodies and the bodies of others “can seep down” into a child’s perception of their bodies and others’ says Canadian site Moms.com.


    4. Celebrate non-physical attributes.

    This is especially important for young girls–try to find compliments beyond how they look and what they are wearing. 

    Moms.com also says, “It's important to help them develop a positive sense of self that doesn't rely solely upon physical attributes.”


    Parents can notice if they were being helpful, kind, diligent, or courageous. If a child persevered with a task that she found difficult, compliment them on it.

    “There are so many things to love about a person besides what their body or looks, and the sooner a child learns that, the better,” ends Moms.com.

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