On the November 4 episode in their Skypodcast, Kryz Uy and Slater Young talked about something that they don't usually talk about - their sex life.
The well-loved couple was trying to answer one of their Letters from the Sky - in Smart Parenting, we call these #SPConfessions - from an anonymous wife who was asking for advice because her husband watches porn.
Their answer: Watching porn is normal until it becomes a habit and affects the relationship.
Slater on watching porn
Kryz got candid asking Slater if he watches porn. Slater's long answer didn't impress her - and even netizens!
"I don't like to spend time looking at porn in a way na parang I dedicate this part of my time, kasi alam ko there's 30-minute long porn videos, para sa akin I don't do that," he explained.
Kryz replied, "So yung mga five minutes lang yung sa'yo?"
"'Yung mga nakikita mo lang sa Instagram na porny-porny na mga women, paminsan lumalabas sa feed mo, but that's about it for me," he said.
"Speak the truth, love," Kryz stressed.
On a serious note, Slater said, "Hindi siya negative for me. It's only negative if it becomes a habit."
He explained, "There [are] a lot of studies when it comes to watching porn, that it actually affects how you interact with the real world, with real people, real women."
When your partner gets affected by porn so much that it sets a different standard in their head and affects your connection with your partner, that's when Kryz and Slater say that it's gone bad.
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Slater revealed, "Definitely when I was younger, I watch a lot more porn way more porn than now. 'Pag yung testosterone mo grabeng grabe."
He said he knows at least three porn websites but swears he's never visited these since he was in college. Probably because watching porn takes a certain personality or he's just too busy with other things.
Kryz comes to her husband's defense, "This guy doesn't even have time to sleep or play with his kids how could he have time to watch porn?"
But a netizen pointed out, "Ngayon lang si Slater di makapag-express ng maayos ng gustong sabihin. Usually madami siyang wisdom eh."
Kryz's side
Kryz shares her perspective with Slater, and netizens are loving her for being so cool.
"Honestly, I think it's fine to watch porn. I think I'd be in denial if I assume that I'm the only person and the only body that you'll ever see. You know its fine, I understand. But if it's like a habit nga or it's like intervening with our intimacy in the bedroom then i think it would be weird."
Slater then took the opportunity to ask her: "Do you watch porn?"
Her reply was quick: "No, I don't." She said men tend to consume more porn than women, but it doesn't mean that women are not allowed to watch porn.
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She explained, "Iba-iba talaga tayo, and I think the key to a successful life is to just accept that everybody is different and everybody has different likes and dislikes."
She added, "I feel like it shouldn't be a big deal as long as it's not affecting your relationship."
Slater concluded, "If you are spending a lot of time, dedicating a lot of time watching porn, magkaka-problema ka."
Want to ask the same question anonymously to other parents? Here.
What would you do if you catch your partner watching porn?
If Kryz sees slater watching porn, she said would try to have an open conversation with him. She'll ask if it's okay to watch together. If he's not comfortable about it, she'll respect it
"There needs to be a conversation so that you're not always wondering at the back of your head, "Am I satisfying him?"
What would Slater do if she catches Kryz watching porn?
He said he would definitely be shocked, but it would be okay. "That's probably kinda hot also. I'm good that you're exploring that side, I can imagine right now, I wouldn't have any violent reaction to it at all."
Kryz pointed out, and this is a reminder for married couples out there: "Sometimes there are things that you want to keep to yourself. Sometimes I want to do things by myself, and sometimes you want to do things by yourself. If I want to share it, I'll share it, if I don't, I won't."
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