It's only been six days ago when Maxene Magalona took to social media that she is enjoying her life despite being 'single and childless.'
Since then, the singer-actress has been sharing her realizations from her marriage with Rob Mananquil.
"Most important lesson that I learned from my marriage: Give yourself to God before you give yourself away," she said.
Maxene said that she believes the reason why some relationships don't work is that some people come with unresolved trauma or unprocessed pain from childhood.
"When two wounded souls come together, no matter how great things are at the beginning, they will end up unconsciously projecting their traumas and pain onto each other if neither of them do the inner work to heal."
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She also stressed the importance of coming clean, and being honest with your intentions when the relationship is just starting.
"Get real and vulnerable by discussing things like your past traumas, mistakes and heartaches. Things that trigger you. Your fears and uncertainties. It’s nice to have fun & lighthearted conversations especially at the start of a relationship, but I believe what will truly make it last is when we can just be completely honest with each other and have deep and meaningful conversations—especially the uncomfortable ones," Maxene said.
According to her, having these real conversations can save you from unnecessary pain.
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Maxene Magalona shares relationship advice
She also gave tips for people who are single or in a relationship.
"If you are currently in a happy & stable relationship, I encourage you to constantly ask each other how you feel and hold space for each other with no judgment. Spend quality time and be present. Cry about your worries & fears and then laugh about them together, too."
"If you are in an unhappy relationship, it’s best to have an honest, heart-to-heart conversation and ask yourselves if it is worth holding on to something that isn’t making your soul smile anymore or if it’s better to just gracefully & lovingly let go so that both of you can move on to the things that are truly meant for you.
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"If you are single, focus on working on yourself and embody the traits that you want in a partner. Heal so that you can be a better human. Offer your healing to God and He will bring you in alignment with your soulmate."
She concluded her post by saying, "Never chase. Attract."
This line resonated with a lot of netizens, and Maxene shared in her Instagram stories that people have been coming to her seeking for advice.
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In an interview with Iza Calzado on She Talks Asia Instagram on October 20, she confirmed that she is going through an annulment.
Celebrities who have also gone through separation and divorce like Carla Abellana, Michelle Madrigal, and Tricia Centenera showed their support for Maxene.
Some netizens are also calling on Maxene to write a book about her journey because one user said, "your words are full of healing."
7 ways to move on after a breakup, according to Maxene Magalona
Maxene also recently shared seven ways to move on after a breakup. It resonated with a lot of her followers, and some expressed how Maxene's advice were what they needed to hear.
1. Grieve. Cry. Feel the pain and let it all out.
"Express your anger and sadness in healthy ways instead of distracting yourself from feeling uncomfortable emotions. Drown yourself in your tears if you have to but never drown yourself in alcohol or a pool of negative and unhelpful thoughts. Grieving is an integral part of the process. You cannot move on without properly grieving a loss."
2. Pray for yourself and your ex.
"Constantly, sincerely and wholeheartedly. No matter how angry or hurt you are, learn to pray for you and your ex. This will help you soften your heart and develop more compassion for yourself and others. The pain that you are feeling may be intense and overwhelming but as long as you pray, God will help you process your way through it."
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3. Surrender to the present moment and accept the situation as if you chose it.
"It doesn’t matter anymore who is right or wrong—the fact remains that your ex’s vibrational energy is no longer a match to yours and vice versa. This is the reason why the relationship is not working anymore. There is no point in pointing fingers. Gracefully and lovingly let go of the relationship."
4. Be grateful for all the lessons you learned and the knowledge you gained in the relationship.
"Every relationship we encounter in this world is meant to teach us something about ourselves. Going through heartbreaks makes us stronger, more resilient and a lot wiser."
5. Understand that your ex is also just like you—a soul who is figuring its way through this lifetime.
"Their traumas, pain and suffering are just the same as yours. Try to see them this way instead of a person that you “own” or “control” just because you were in a relationship together. (No one owns anyone in this Universe, btw.)"
6. Focus on yourself.
"Use this as a time of personal growth and development. This is the perfect opportunity for you to turn negative energy into positive energy by healing yourself. Try a new hobby. Exercise. Connect to yourself on a deeper level through meditation. Find God within."
7. Let go and let God.
"Move forward with grace and lightness in your heart."
Thank you, Maxene, for sharing these wisdom as you go through probably one of the hardest moments of your life.
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