This Mom Has An Open Letter To Those Who Tell Her, 'Losyang Na, Isa Palang Anak'

Nothing could ever truly prepare a woman for motherhood. It comes with unique experiences that you only understand once you've become a mother. The stretch marks, the weight gain, the perpetual eye bags—these become badges of honor. The sleepless nights, the cups of coffee that have gone cold, the rushed toilet breaks—these all become part of the journey. 

In an ideal world, moms support one other. Motherhood is already hard. Receiving hurtful comments about our bodies, which literally went under the knife, has to stop. 

Based in Bjerkvik, Norway, 25-year-old Mikkaella Pith Brosas is the content creator behind the Facebook page, Mommy Miks & Kiel. Her son, Kiel, is one year old and four months.

She shared on August 14 an open letter to those who shame her postpartum body, including those who tell her, "Losyang na, isa pa lang anak!"

She shared a powerful photo showing how her body has changed postpartum. Her sentiments resonated with several moms, with her post gaining over 18k shares and 3k reactions as of writing.

Mommy Miks allowed Smart Parenting to feature her post. "At first, I was really surprised na maraming nag-share and react to my post. Kasi sa totoo lang I seldom post my body on social media after I gave birth. Kaya hindi ko talaga yun totally inexpect na magbu-boom," Mommy Miks told Smart Parenting.

She added, "It was just a random day na gusto ko lang mag post about my MOMBOD and because of that I read a lot of opinions from other Mommies na nakakarelate din daw sila at masaya naman ako doon kasi hindi pala ako nag-iisa."

However, she mentioned that her post also elicited negative comments, and some unfortunately came from fellow mommies too.

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A mom's open letter to those who shame her postpartum body

Smart Parenting editors made minor edits to Mommy Miks' post for clarity.

"ANG TABA-TABA MO NA!"

"LOSYANG NA, ISA PALANG ANAK!"

"GRABE, ANG LAKI NG TINABA MO!"

"BAKIT DI KA KAAGAD NAGPAPAYAT?"

"BAKIT PINABAYAAN MO ANG KATAWAN MO?"

Una sa lahat, sakripisyo ang tawag diyan. Mas inisip ko ang anak ko kaysa sa sarili ko. Mas kailangan ako ng anak ko. Pwede ko naman balikan ang sarili ko at bumawi kapag malaki na si baby.

"Sa paningin ng anak ko, ako ang pinakamaganda. Hintayin niyo lang siya lumaki, araw-araw akong naka-full make up habang naglalaba." —Mikkaella Pith Brosas

Yes po, nakakalosyang po talaga kahit isa palang anak, lalo na kung ikaw lang mag-isa ang nag-aalaga sa anak mo.

Pero take note, nagbago man ang hugis at itsura ng aking katawan, wala na akong pakialam. Maalagang ina ang sinisimbolo niyan.

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Kaya huwag niyo iyayabang sa akin na, 'Bakit yung iba?' Wala po akong paki sa kanila. Hindi naman po mahalaga itsura ko sa ngayon, at wag niyo po sabihin sakin na lagi kong sinasanay ang anak ko sa buhat at kung ano man dahil unang-una, hindi po kayo ang nag aalaga. Ako po. 

Dahil pagdating ng araw, malamang sa malamang, ayaw niya na magpabuhat kasi big boy na siya. (Susulitin ko 'to habang ako palang ang mundo niya).

Sa paningin ng anak ko, ako ang pinakamaganda. Hintayin niyo lang siya lumaki, araw-araw akong naka-full make up habang naglalaba.

I know na mataba ako at aware ako doon. Kaya please lang, stop being so comfortable commenting on other people's bodies.

She ended her post with a quote, "Everyone has to sacrifice themselves to replace this thing called motherhood."

Read her original post on Facebook here.

A call to support other moms

One mom commented on Mommy Miks' post, "Mataba man tayo or payat, mag-ayos man tayo or hindi may masasabi't masasabi pa din sa atin. Basta maging totoo tayo sa sarili natin, at maging masaya tayo sa araw-araw kasama ang mga mahal natin."

Another mom said, "Isang mahigpit na yakap para sating mga bagong nanay na yumayakap palang sa lahat ng pagbabago na nangyayari sa buhay natin."

On August 23, Mommy Miks edited her post to include a message for moms who left negative comments.

"Iba-iba po ang katawan nating mga babae. Kaya para po sa iba na masusuwerte dahil mabilis pumayat, may disiplina, naalagaan ang sarili etc. Mapapa SANA ALL nalang po talaga kaming hirap pumayat at mag-isang nag-aalaga ng anak."

She cited the negative comments that she received in her post, which, unfortunately, came from fellow moms.

"PANAY KA KASI LAMON!"

"AKO NGA PUMAYAT AGAD AKO AFTER MANGANAK."

"WALA KA LANG DISIPLINA SA SARILI MO."

"HUWAG MO I-RASON NA KAYA KA TUMABA DAHIL SA PANGANGANAK MO!"

She said, "Sana wag nalang po natin i-judge yung ibang mommies na di magawa agad ang mga bagay na yan, lalo na maalagaan ang sarili at mabalik yung dating sila. Kasi hindi natin alam baka yung iba may mga health conditions, kagaya ko na may PCOS, at sa genes na din namin."

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"It takes time mga mommies, hindi naman po ito competition. This is all about our sacrifices and us being the BEST MOM na gagawin lahat para sa ating mga anak. Hindi naman lahat kailangan madaliin. Let's just respect each others body & opinion nalang po. Thank you!"

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