'Parang Kaya Pa Noh?' Selfless Dad Shares A Photo Of His Butas Na Medyas To His WifeWe see you, dads.by Judy Santiago Aladin .
In our Facebook group, Smart Parenting Village, anything goes. Both moms and dads are free to share their rants about their toddler's mess, talk about how to deal with toxic in-laws or a cheating husband, and even comfort those who are in a sexless marriage.
Recently, a mom shared in the group a screenshot of her husband's message, where he sent her a photo of his worn-out sock while at work.
Her husband said to her in the chat, "Parang kaya pa naman, no? Kaya pa. Haha!"
Amused, the mom shared it with the group and captioned it, "Natawa lang ako sa chat ng asawa ko," and added the hashtag, #Dadlife. The mom who posted it was Girlie Saranillo, a mom of twin boys, from Palo, Leyte. (Don't worry, she sought her husband's permission to post his sock-fie!)
We asked her why her hubby still wears such old socks (as if mine doesn't!). She told Smart Parenting, "Kasi po sabi ni hubby, hanggang nagagamit pa, ok pa yan! Hindi naman daw po yan nakikita ng officemates niya kasi po palagi silang naka safety shoes. Hehe."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
She explains that her husband, who is an electrical engineer, doesn't mind wearing worn-out socks at work because they are saving up for their kids' education. "Save, save, save po kasi yung iniisip namin ngayon. Especially po na mag-school na sila kambal this school year. No luho," said the full-time mom.
Indeed, this made the other moms feel that they are not alone!
Mommy Marnelz Mercado said, "Yung sa hubby ko pati brief niya, haha! Nakakahiya nang isampay!"
Mommy Nyrhia Galang also said, "Akala ko sa LIP (live-in partner) ko lang yung ganyan!" She shared a photo as proof, "Meron pa isa yan, mas malaki yung butas. Pero mas favorite pa niya yun."
The mom of two girls from Sta. Ana, Manila told Smart Parenting, "Pag pinipilit ko po si LIP bumili ng branded na medyas, lagi niya sagot, "Di naman kita yan," kasi may shoes nga naman!"CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
"Lagi po kasi niya inuuna needs ng mga bata. Huling-huli na sa kanya. Meron pa po siyang pantalon, may butas na din, last week lang nya isinuko!"
Mommy Mayette Diaz proudly tagged her husband in the post. "Ganyan ang asawa ko, na kahit punit-punit na, tinatahi pa niya magamit lang ulit. Meron nga siyang bullcap binata pa siya until now gamit pa rin niya."
She told Smart Parenting, "Honestly speaking nung binata po siya lahat po ng gamit niya branded, laging bago gamit niya. Since nag-asawa na kami at nakapag-work abroad siya, at nagkaanak na kami, nagbago mindset niya."
She adds, "Hangga't kayang magtipid sa sarili niya ginagawa niya, lahat ng hard-earned money niya, nakalaan for investment and future ng mga kids namin."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
The forgotten parent
The moms are correct. Their husbands are putting their children's needs first, and their needs last because of the pressures put on them by society to be good fathers and providers.
Scott Behson, PhD, a Professor of Management in Fairleigh Dickinson University, and author of The Working Dad's Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home said, there is a need to recognize the challenges faced by dads who want to be both an involved dad and a good provider.
He said in a HuffPost article, "Every working dad I know struggles with balancing the time and effort required to be a good financial provider with the time and effort needed to be a present, involved, loving father."
Nevertheless, these involved dads are doing a great job because according to Behson, children whose fathers are actively involved in their lives from the start become better students and healthier individuals. They are also less prone to breaking laws and becoming teenage parents.
Socks for dads
Mommy Kaye Lacdao-Dimaano said it best: "Legit dadlife. Yung may pambili naman sila pero susuotin nila hangga't kaya pa at hangga't di natin binibilhan ng kapalit!"
That's why we rounded up a few socks ideas that you can give to your dads or hubbies to let them know that you see their hard work and acknowledge their sacrifices.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
1. Fun socks by Iconic (starts at P200.00 a pair)
Replace your hubby's worn-out socks with these cool statement socks that they can wear at the office at P200 each. Buy it in Lazada here.
2. Faces on socks by Printstrix (starts at P545.00 a pair)ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Now this is way cooler! Why not put your face or your baby's on your hubby's new socks? We found this online store that customizes socks and other items with anyone's faces! Order from their website, here.
3. Classy socks by Giordano (P369.00 for a pack of 3)
You don't have to spend a lot to get them some really nice branded socks! This pack of 3 socks from Giordano is only P369.00! Buy it in Lazada, here.
Make everyday a dad appreciation day
It is high time that we tell dads that their needs matter too! Mommy NJ Argamosa shares, she just buys new socks for her husband without telling him. That way, her husband won't feel guilty about his new socks.
She tells moms, "Yung mga partner natin na hindi maluho, mapagtiis hangga't kaya pa, kasi priority nila ang gastusin sa pamilya. Kaya sweet din yung conscious tayo sa mga pasaring na ganyan, at tayo na nagkukusa bilhan sila. Ibig sabihin lang, we love everything about them, even the tiniest detail. Hindi lang halata pero kinikilig yan sila pag napapansin natin ang small details ng mga kailangan nila."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Check out other items you can give your partner, even if it's not Father's day, here.
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