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Why It's Important To Be Kind To Your Partner (Even When You're Angry)Being kind to your partner can make them feel appreciated and loved.by Kate Borbon .
When you’re upset with your partner, it’s easy to treat them unfairly. However, experts say it is during these times of frustration and anger when it’s all the more important to be kind to your spouse.
3 reasons why kindness is important in a marriage
1. Kindness can keep you together.
Plenty of evidence shows that kindness helps keep couples together. The Atlantic writes that, according to research, kindness “is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated — feel loved.”ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
One study that backs this up was conducted by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, who looked into what makes relationships work. One thing they found was that couples who treat one another kindly — even during arguments — are more likely to stay together.CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
“Kindness doesn’t mean that we don’t express our anger, but the kindness informs how we choose to express the anger. You can throw spears at your partner. Or you can explain why you’re hurt and angry, and that’s the kinder path,” said Dr. Julie.
2. Kindness can build trust.
According to one survey of 400,000 single people, kindness the number one trait people look for in considering a long-term relationship, even outranking factors like money, sex, and connection. Why? Because being kind can help your partner feel more secure.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“This doesn’t mean that you are never going to fight or never be angry with each other. But it means that you can trust that you are in a safe environment where your partner is not likely to 'hit below the belt' and say things that are ultimately unacceptable and tough to recover from."
3. Being kind will help get your needs met.
Being kind is all about practicing “mindful and considerate behavior throughout your relationship,” as psychotherapist Sanaa Hyder, M.S.Ed. writes on The Gottman Institute. When you are kind, you take the time to be aware of your partner’s needs and do your best to address them, which can then deepen your relationship and encourage them to also be more mindful of your needs.
“Ultimately, kindness serves your expression of difficult emotions by offering your partner the capacity to really hear you,” Hyder explains. “Even if you are angry, in order to approach your partner effectively you must be kind. If you’ve paved the way for your partner to be open to you, they are more likely to hear your frustration and respond with compassion. Kindness gets your needs met.”ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
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