Do you remember what it was like to be young and in love? It was one of the most euphoric feelings in the world. Do you also remember what it was like to lose that love? It was as though the world was ending.
How you can help your teen with his or her first heartbreak
1. Give your teen space.
We all deal with heartbreak in our own unique ways. As young as your teenager may be, he must go through his recent heartbreak in a way that fits with him. You may be his parent, but you have such a little say in this. Give your teen the space he needs. He will come to you when he feels like it. If he doesn’t, just let him know that you are always there.
2. Let your teen cry.
Our parents and their parents before us told us not to cry. Don't do the same for your kids. Crying is not a sign of weakness. They need to know your home is a safe space where they can get over the end of a relationship, and if it means crying, so be it. Let them spend a whole night in their bed.
Your teen son or daughter wants to let out his or her emotions in a healthy way. It is a lot more dangerous to let teens walk around with all of their feelings bottled inside. Let them cry into their pillow or on your shoulder and be ready with a box of tissues.
3. Make your presence felt by listening.
At this point in our teenager’s life, very few things seem to make sense. Perhaps his first experience of young love was one thing that did. Losing that now will bring him back to a state of loss.
Talking things out allows us to evaluate the events in our lives and figure out for ourselves at what point things went wrong. Listen to your teenager if and when he chooses to share with you what happened. Sometimes all he needs is someone to hear him out.
4. Offer advice.
Once upon a time, you have been where your teenager is now. The circumstances of your story may not be exactly the same, but we are willing to bet his or hers are not entirely different.
Offer your teenager some motherly or fatherly advice as you see fit. Let your teenager know that you have been there, too, and survived. What helped you then may help him now. Guide him through this part of his life, and help him get out of it stronger than he ever was.
5. Support your teen's decision.
At the end of the day, our teenagers are no longer children. They have to arrive at a decision on their own. You can do all of the things we have listed about, but the choice is still up to them when the time comes.
Support your teens in whatever way they finally decide to deal with their heartbreak. You have raised an intelligent child, after all. If they fall, let them know that it may feel like the end of the world now, but the good news their parents will always be there for them.